Monday 8th August 2022

Being Me: The Month That Was July 2022. 49/2022.

Being Me: The Month That Was July 2022. 49/2022.

It’s my time to share how my Word of The Year is working out for me via the  post to this link up run by Deb, Sue,  Donna and  Jo too.

Being Me: July 2022.

I have already shared here that we are planning a move back ‘home’ to Sydney in early 2023 and plans for that are taking off in many ways!

I have recently celebrated my 5 years since my first major surgery removing cancer from my upper mouth and wrote about it here.

And, July is one big important month for head and neck cancer and that too has been shared here.

From my World Head and Neck Cancer Day update: a photo marking my 6th #WHNCD!

So, that’s it.

Being Me

….oh wait! There IS more to keeping me “being” each day!

Daily Calm mornings and a mediation each evening is non-negotiable!

Self Compassion via the program I began in January is my evening way of remembering gratitude and more

As is daily reflections, diary entries in my Day One on-line journal

And it is SO good for me to reflect. In fact, what I notice these days is that I do much less rumination and I am also far better at bringing myself back from too much future thinking.

I have become a more heart (and gut) centred human over the past 6 months…

Rain.

So much. It directly affected us slightly here. We did not go out unless absolutely having to. Roads have been incredibly damaged via 4 major flood/rain events here in N.S.W. so I learned to BE ME without going out…and I had plenty of practice from last year’s covid lockdown.

I did get here but the same day, the road to it was flooded. No access to the sand either.

Getting to my psychologist where I wrapped up my sessions. I hadn’t had a need to see her other than two visits and it was good to say thank you to her and for my ways of self-managing to be affirmed. I actually helped her with something too. I liked that.

Sun’s out. Wyong River, still in flood, after seeing the psychologist.

Morning Tea Treats.

As a long time emotional eater…or covering up emotions I couldn’t express (anger was not permitted…) I often chose to calm with food. And that was OK too but since head and neck cancer (and feeling OK these days) I am limited in quantities and types of food.

How to ‘be me’ without getting old stories from diet land and parents’ words??

Do IT!

When I go out now a few times a week I have an inexpensive (relatively) morning tea of a strong (very) small latte & half an iced donut. The top part of course. I also use my alone time BEING me to write in my note book and people watch. It’s a lovely way to help me restore my soul. And I eat with difficulty so it’s also me not being in company!!

Appreciating Where We Live Now.

Since deciding to become city-dwellers again, I have a new way of looking at, and experiencing where we live now. Making memories has become more important to me…and I like that.

Health Update.

Still having my surgery in August, and I have some blood tests coming up for that and a pre admission check the week before over the phone. I know I will find it a challenge being in hospital recovering from major surgery over a weekend…surgery is Thursday…but am preparing myself psychologically….and with ipad, iphone, drawing items and so on. And as it is a long recovery at home…doing a bit of cooking for the freezer right now.

As I come out of the head and  neck cancer surveillance regime, once October comes, I will still be checked each 6 months or so at Westmead by my prosthodontist. Good news is next year, living in western Sydney, the travel time will be much less.

B and I are protected with all the possible vaccines and wearing masks anywhere indoors, out of the house. Almost all of our family (living in Sydney) have had covid. We are fingers crossed to miss it.

We did enjoy a special morning tea out recently and that’s the limit for us!

 

Some Snaps Of July Life….

Saw Dad. He Was In Good Form.

 

My Index Cards. Last time for this.

 

Remember !!

 

Where To Next?

  • we are downsizing in 2023 and now plan to move to an apartment somewhere (not in a retirement village) in the Hills District of Sydney.
  • we are doing a LOT of culling, de-cluttering and more to enable this to happen…and this is a good thing
  • much has been donated already to local charities
  • a charity is coming to collect much of our home office furniture
  • our son is taking quite a bit for his place
  • the rocking horse is staying in the family – at my daughter’s
  • we’ve sent packages of B’s texts to friends whose work is in mental health
  • and we are very grateful for Facebook marketplace: I had never used it, and whilst we sold items (a large garden storage box, a bar fridge) for very little, they have gone to people who needed them
  • my husband is no longer going to need to use a workshop so there will be some selling and donations happening there
  • we are checking out the internet rentals (ok, mostly me) to try to see what would work for us…and enjoying the process
  • we feel very comfortable with the decisions made to date as we are ageing physically and need to take that into account

Watch this space?!

Not really. Until we are into the new year we cannot look at anything seriously but we will continue to hone what will be kept and what will go. It is a challenge …we have already done so much (we thought) but no, not as much as we might have hoped when I ask B “so, you put this stuff in this box at Glenwood??” Um, dear reader, not even opened after 8 years and full of all stuff that could have been thrown out…and now has been….

A little find for the good. Found a DVD where some of our very early years of marriage captured on Super 8  had been copied. I was able to get it onto this computer and then do some screen shots. So cool. And great memories.

January 1972 at my parents’ house with now (almost) 51 yo daughter…

We were off to a christening..not hers, proud Dad holding his daughter.

Bye For Now.

I have to say, with the blog posts about head and neck cancer and keeping up with some other aspects of my social media accounts, I am needing yo  give myself a month or more off.

On 11 August I will be having surgery and as I will be gearing up for that beforehand and then recovering for up to 6 weeks, I will take time out.

I know you will all understand.

This is good self care!

Thinking of you all, and wishing you well over the coming weeks.

I will be keeping up with the blog link up here today and checking out others’ posts, of course!

Denyse.

 

 

 

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