Friday 28th January 2022

Words To Live By In 2022. 2/51 #LifeThisWeek. 2/2022.

 Words To Live By In 2022. 2/51 #LifeThisWeek. 2/2022.

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Words To Live By…in 2022.

See my post from last week here.

I am adding more to the words:

BE

ME

I need to remember this word.

P I V O T

I have an issue with my right leg since the fibula was removed and it means I cannot ‘pivot’ myself with ease…I feel I could fall.

But that’s not what I meant.

There have been many occasions in 2021, particularly related to living in pandemic conditions when I have had to change my thoughts and activities that may have been planned. ‘Old’ me would have ranted and railed on some occasions, but now, I can express disappointment but learn to change my ‘tune’.

There was a ‘perfect’ example where I had to practise my pivoting and that was when our plans for Christmas Day in Sydney with our family was cancelled for us as I had symptoms of Covid and needed a PCR test.

But wait there is MORE.

I reckon I need to pivot almost every day…the huge change to how we ‘live with covid’ since Omicron exploded here and around the world means this.

For me and B, it’s about making ourselves a relatively safe place at home, like a virtual lockdown. I have had to say to my Dad, 98 tomorrow, that I am not driving down to see him because:

  1. My GP thinks I still have remnants of the virus that is not covid…he is right. I can be feeling well for a time, then whoosh, feel weak and lethargic and my gut is affected
  2. Keeping boundaries of self care rather than my old-hard-to-lose practices of people pleasing and I end up not doing well
  3. I will talk to Dad on the day, maybe even facetime if my brother is with him and I sent a card….

And we are literally taking each day at a time here.

Plans for this week, and into next week cannot be formally set. Covid threats and our health continuing to go well is paramount. We are doing what we can ….and it’s hard when I know we would love to see family and get out and about more. Not happening. For now, and the foreseeable future.

Want to use “pivot” too? Go ahead! It’s yours….

I will consider many of these words to help me

BE

ME

 

H.E.A.R.T.

words…..because I am a feelings person first!

Health  Empathy  Awareness      Rest     Trust    

Hope   Emotions    Acceptance       Revive        Truth  

Honesty    Education     Acknowledgment     Review      Time

Words from previous years to continue to  help guide me.

my WOTY 2021 is going to accompany me in 2022

SMILE from 2021 was a good one, as was GRATITUDE in 2020,

Thoughts on Gratitude

and the others before helped me through my cancer years B.O.L.D. and before then,

I gave ACCEPTANCE a go somewhat unsuccessfully in 2015 and KINDNESS in 2016.

Words To Help Remind Me About Living Well

  • I am also learning….to, as my husband tells me…hasten slowly.
  • I am a recovering striver*, with high achievements behind me and a pretty fast paced mind …matches my walking style.
  • * I made this up but it works for me to be more aware….
  • I will stroll more than walk at pace when I really want to surround myself with sensory memories.
  • I will continue my morning and evening meditation practice.
  • I will put my devices down for a time (increasing from 10 mins at first) to pick up a magazine or book.

I will not think that I have to DO something every.single.minute.

I am learning to BE ME more.

I will make mistakes and then I will say that’s OK, and remember what my intention is to have at age 72:

  • a somewhat less busy daily life
  • time for me
  • time for being with B
  • and time to play…with art, words, photos and more.
  • and I will be colouring my world.

Check out next week’s post about Colouring My World in 2022.

I am confident that it will all be something I learn to love and will wonder how I lead the life I did before now!

What do you think?

Denyse.

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Comments

  1. I am loving all your words Denyse. I really like the recovering striver term and can see it working for you. Your pivoting is going well and I’m sorry you’re not feeling all that good yet. Take care and your dad will understand i’m sure.

    • Thanks so much Debbie for your kind words and compliments.

      Dad will be and is fine about his birthday. Just did a facetime with him earlier as my bro, sil and niece took him a cake…he now has a ‘date’ with friends from where he lives tomorrow. All things work out, one way or another.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  2. I understand the constant need to pivot in these difficult times Denyse. We have put our life on hold in order to stay safe. We’re just not willing to take any risks. I took covid leave from work for the first year of the pandemic and I’m considering doing it again now that Omicron is everywhere. I love your heart words.

    • Thanks so much Jennifer.

      My husband and I don’t want to live in a fearful way so we do what we can to take the situation as manage it as best we can

      There sure is a need to pivot..

      Do take care of you and your partner as best suits you both.

      Take care,.

      Denyse.

  3. Hi Denyse, I’m a striver but like you am finding a rhythm of life that will suit me in 2022. I’m not ready to slow down entirely but I do want to make more room for enjoying life with Mr M especially after 2021 and all we had to deal with. I do hope you are feeling better soon. Take care and happy birthday to you Dad for tomorrow. Sending a hug to you this Monday morning. #lifethisweek

    • Ah Sue, you get it so well too.

      I think the slowing of pace helps us engage more with who is most important and what is most important.

      So easy to get carried away with the “busyness” vibe and also the “distraction” it provides when life challenges us.

      Loved seeing you and M having your beach walk.

      Dad is a happy camper as friends where he is are taking him out for lunch tomorrow and my bro, sil and niece just visited with a cake and we did facetime.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  4. Hi Denyse, sorry to hear that you’ve been unwell – but very glad for you that it wasn’t covid. We’re certainly living in uncertain times. Here in WA the plan is to throw open our borders to everywhere on Feb 5th – and our covid-free bubble is going to explode. Still, I figure we can’t live in fear because it changes nothing – maybe the old “be alert but not alarmed” catch cry is the way to go? Anyway, I’m so glad you’re finding your sweet spot with how to live well and I hope 2022 turns out to be a better year than what most of us are assuming it will be!

    • Thank you Leanne! Sadly even when I said it’s not covid, this morning I was feeling worse and whilst it may not be that at all, just something still inside my system, I went for a PCR test as they are more accurate and RAT are impossible to buy. We have some for an emergency if needed.

      I understand how it must feel in WA where, as you say, eventually you open up. There is an element of fear when, because of poor leadership decisions in our state and with our PM, we are doing this for ourselves. Sourcing things we are told ‘will be free’ at your local pharmacy. Um, no, PM they are not even able to get them.

      For my sake I am less on SM (twitter) because it is ever-changing and I want to self care better.

      Right now, I am resting up, after reading/writing here, and waiting for my test result to see what’s next.

      Enjoy your much more settled and lovely environment

      Take care

      Denyse.

  5. Love your words. Well, currently my life is pivoted on this strange virus and its variants. Weekend curfew imposed here, resulting in no weekend bird watching trips. I guess, after a while the variants will be named flu and people can treat it as such.

    • Thank you Shiju. So sorry to read about the limitations imposed. You are right, over time, we will do that I guess. Still scary in some ways for now.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  6. Life at the moment is certainly about ‘going with the flow’ isn’t it Denyse….that old soap’s title ‘As The World Turns’ says it all. During the past two years our worlds have certainly been turned upside down, inside out, around and about, and I reckon it’ll continue to happen for (as you mentioned) the foreseeable future.
    Pivoting has to be factored into our lives these days (well sometimes we don’t get much choice do we) so as long as we’re happy with where we end up and not grizzling because we had to do a quick u-turn all should be well. It sounds like you’re controlling what you can and staying out of harms way. I’m sure once you’ve recovered completely and are back on your feet life will be far more….well, whatever you want it to be
    Looking forward to seeing your colourful world next week
    Take care
    Cathy

    • How lovely it was to read your words of wisdom and shared understanding Cathy. Thank you.

      Yes to pivotting…and yes to accepting and yes, I guess, to waiting for the governments of the day to do a BIT better!! I have taken myself off twitter more these days because of ….” words” that are so triggering…and keeping myself better under control.

      I am looking forward to seeing our GP tomorrow as I do not have covid but this lingering virus is outstaying its welcome!

      Enjoying my focus on colouring my world, so yes, all will be revealed …not a secret though!

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  7. I love the word pivot and that is what I am doing. I need to have a plan, but I also will pivot. We postponed a trip (this week originally) because… omicron. Not that I’m too worried about myself anymore (two shots and a booster and no underlying conditions here), but I am still worried about passing it to someone who might have underlying conditions that will make it more severe.

    I also like the word stroll you used, but I have another word I like. Went for a “new year hike” (on Jan 2 actually) with some ladies (a meet-up – new folks, all outdoors)… and said they really needed to call it a “new year meander”! I do like a hike, but I adore a meander.

    Have a wonderful week.

    • Oh how wonderful to meet up with new people Patricia and for you to find lots in common.

      Meander, yes I can try that too. I know slowing down helps me and I will be more ready to do it when I am out and about again.

      The old pivot…yes, the guiding word we may have to have in these times!

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  8. I can’t hear the word “pivot” and not think of the episode of Friends where Ross is trying to get his new couch into his apartment. I really struggled for years to pivot our plans without feeling upset and feeling like I was pitching a fit inside.

    • Oh how funny when each of us has a memory or association with a word, Joanne.

      Sounds like you may be feeling you are better at pivoting these days…”the what is out of our control” thing…we ARE all in this together!

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  9. I feel you about not being able to visit your father. My father will be turning 73 on Saturday and I haven’t been to my parents’ house since at least a year before the pandemic struck. Different circumstances, but it gets harder the older we and our parents get. I am confident though that your father appreciated you having sent him a card and having talked to him on the phone.

    As for the word PIVOT, yes, this pandemic requires us to pivot a lot, figuratively. I remember in 2020 not being able to see my husband for the first nearly three months of the pandemic due to care facilities being closed to visitors during the first lockdown. That was really sad, but we worked our way through it.

    • Lovely to hear from you Astrid.

      Yes to making the most of times we can for visiting parents if and when it’s possible.

      Connections to family are helpful but not always sought in our adult years. It so depends on many things doesn’t it?

      I know my father did enjoy chatting and he got my card, and that’s good.

      Take care,
      Denyse

  10. It’s hard to draw that line sometimes – re visiting your dad and needing to care for yourself. I’m in a slightly different position but realise that if my mum was to get covid – but not sick enough for hospital… but needing help, I’d definitely need to go and care for her. That’d mean almost certainly getting it myself as her place is small – one bathroom etc… But hopefully my vaccinated not-as-old-as-her body would be okay with it.

    • Thanks Deb, yes I understand that from your perspective very much. I am indeed fortunate that my brother and SIL are close by for Dad’s immediate care.

      However, with what I had (and still do!) the drive was what was more out of the question as it’s 2 hours of concentrating x2 and I wasn’t up to it. I think in the next week or so, I will get down there but it’s still a calculated risk, so will weigh it up.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

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