Friday 22nd October 2021

Word, Intention or Nothing! 2/51.#LifeThisWeek. 4/2019.

Word, Intention or Nothing! 2/51.#LifeThisWeek. 4/2019.

So, it’s now 14 January 2019 and many New Year’s Resolutions have been made, kept and already broken. I actually do not make them. However, since blogging, I have followed a pattern of making a:

word for the calendar year

Here’s what I did in:

2015: Acceptance. I had NO idea that the year would prove to be much more than I could ever ‘accept’ because at the time I was not equipped with how to deal with my many changes.

2016: FEARless. I would have liked to think this clever play on words would help. In some ways they did, but at other times I found I could not quite shape-up. NB: Am can be a very tough self-critic. Trust popped up somewhere along the way and nope it didn’t resonate either.


2017: Kindness. This started well and it certainly made me aware of others’ kindness back to me once I was diagnosed with cancer. I have kept the small design I made for this one and it hangs near my desk.

2018: Started as Brave and then went to Braving and some days later B.O.L.D. took centre stage and I mostly lived this one. Here’s the initial post and a subsequent one.

Sign Above Where I Blog.

My “message to me” bracelet.

2019: What IS it?

I don’t really know…yet. But I have already written and thought about it so much privately.

Maybe it’s because I have had cancer (and it can come back) that I have stopped thinking as positively as I did.

I also add in some health issues that come as a matter of age (70 this year!) and stage and wonder IF I can handle them on top of everything else emotionally and physically in my cancer recovery.

So, I have had ideas, and even some words. I also wrote a bit – a lot – in my journals.

I thought about SELF-CARE a great deal and I know that I can neglect this side of my health and welfare when I go down well-trodden, older paths of what it is like to be ME.

I wrote about that only last September here.

For now, though I would rather not go through the process in just one post as it has been and will continue to be a good old “Work-In-Progress”.

I am going to post what my conclusion is in a second post this week which will be, within itself, a better explanation and understanding of my thought processes! That IS expecting a lot, but as many here know, I tend to tell the truth and open up quite a bit about my struggles.

So, thank you for your patience in advance.

I will have it all here for the next blog post.

Meanwhile, have you decided on a word or intention for 2019 or did you decided “nothing” and leave it at that.

Maybe if I break the code this man is writing I will know more!

I am a bit late to the party for this and I know many of you have published what your decisions are for 2019 earlier.


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Joining Alicia here for Open Slather and Kell here for Mummy Mondays.

Next Week’s Optional Prompt: 3/51. Best Gift Ever. 21/1/19.



  1. Take your time, Denyse, to come to a conclusion. I set goals for myself each year, no WOTY and no resolution. Have a beautiful week!

    • Thanks Natalie, the post is ready to go but it did take ages. I cannot do goal setting in my life with the uncertainties of cancer and recoveries which is why I was searching for an over-arching view. I think it is going to be ok.

      I really appreciate your kind words.

      Denyse x

  2. Hi Denyse, as you may have read in one of my posts recently, I couldn’t think of anything and then suddenly two words came to mind. I’m sure you will find something that will be your focus for the year but if you don’t it doesn’t matter really does it? We can put pressure on ourselves for things that aren’t that important in the big scheme of things. I always look forward to reading your thoughts about life and will continue in 2019. Thanks for the link up and have a fabulous week. Looking forward to you linking up with us on Wednesday at #MLSTL. xx

    • Thank you so much for your kindness and understanding. I have formulated my blog post and it will go live on Wednesday and link to #MLSTL

      Given my many uncertainties since cancer I have chosen to be more all-encompassing to self-care as well. None of us women seem to do this well so that is why I have made it an optional prompt each 7th week.

      I do hope your husband recovers well and is back where he belongs with you.

      Denyse x

  3. I’m in the nothing camp this year – instead I’m continuing my 101 things in 1001 days list. Take your time & see what resonates…

    • Thanks Jo. Fortunately some time and some mulling saw some clarity and I was able to write my 2nd post in time for Wednesdays’s #MLSTL.

      It has actually been good for me to take the time and to really drill down to what it is about for me and self-care continued to bubble to the top.

      I am now pleased I have added Self-Care as an optional prompt in week 7 as a result.

      I like your idea but I am so not into achievements any more. Surviving first, then perhaps enjoyment of what I have. Getting there

      Denyse x

  4. The past month has felt unrelenting to me so I don’t know how people really choose goals because is their life not as changing as mine and you literally cannot stick to things? I think that’s why my “llama it, why not?” goal is suiting me. It’s not “SMART” so I can do things when the time suits me, not when it suits a mythical ideal timeline, but it reminds me to keep going.

    • I think too that you have more than enough on your plate: work and home, health and more. I agree about the unrelenting and who has to do it all – a not so well YOU.

      I got over goals ages ago because they were so “work” related and mostly were not set by me but my education bosses.

      I like that you are doing what you can and when…and throwing some photo-taking and op-shopping in for fun.

      Denyse x

      • I’m not even unwell so much anymore (compared to other years) as plain worn out some days! But yes, I’m still finding my things. Even started uploading and scheduling my time lapse videos today.

        • Moving house is always a time of being unsettled and wondering where something is. We have been here for 9 months and still look for stuff. Most of it is found now.

          Denyse x

  5. It’s strange how WOTY should be such a simple thing, but some years it’s just elusive. I find it quite tricky choosing just one word to sum up what’s going through my head. As you know, I chose More for my word this year and I’m using it a lot in the months ahead to really try to foster some growth into my life in 2019. Looking forward to what you come up with xx

    • I can see why you chose more. And it certainly invites you to become more, try more and all that entails.

      I think if there is a plan inside you for it, then it works. This is why my words in 2015-2016 did not work because even though I liked the notions of them I had no self-belief in living them as they just sat there and eventually I deleted the idea of them.

      Whatever it is or nothing, it needs to suit the individual.

      Fortunately taking all this time with my choices has helped and my post is ready for Wednesday and inclusion in #MLSTL.

      Denyse x

  6. I’m with Jo in the nothing camp and am working through my 101 things in 1001 days list. I think it’s ok to give yourself permission to not have a word for the year and feel like you have to commit, maybe a word for the week, the month or the season will suit you better instead?! I’m looking forward to your big reveal!

    • Oh Sammie, I had forgotten you were doing that too. Enough! Where did that originate I wonder.

      I think I am OK now. I need to be able to live according to my word/intentions and I know my B.O.L.D. helped me through some tricky times.

      I am visual and kinaesthetic so being able to ‘see’ my word and play with the little bracelet was a reminder and that was awesome.

      Post is now done. Ready for Wednesday and sharing it first on #MLSTL

      I actually have a new post going out tomorrow with nowhere to link it but it is a post I have usually done at this time of year (starting school/back to school) and with the awful news about Kelly Exeter’s husband.

      I wrote a post. Not about Kelly per se but of her kindness and generosity in making me a pdf for “Letter to My Child’s First Teacher”. She did this gratis at least 7 years ago and even when I ‘lost’ it one year, she found it for me and sent it through.

      She is one special person and I honour her this way.

      Denyse x

  7. I’ve shared my WOTY post here this week Denyse. Thanks again!
    I think your words have been great and show you certainly are a work in progress. You are so generous sharing your thoughts and history with us in the process.

    • Thanks Debbie. Your comments are why I blog!

      I love the connections but I also love that I can share my life and stories safely and help get perspective with fellow bloggers/readers/commenters.

      I look forward to reading yours.

      Denyse x

  8. My word FIFTY comes up again today. Look forward to seeing what you come up with for me to do!!
    As for your word … it will come. But I am thinking your intention and/or word could actually be “exploration”. As in just finding out who you are now in the aftermath of cancer and with the new decade looming. And exploring all the possibilities. And exploring health and wellness. You’ve already been a bit of a pioneer … ore guide … in regards to the mouth cancer … as in you’re helping people as someone who has been there. Pioneers and guides are also explorers. Good luck!
    Now come over and give me a 50 before fifty suggestion xoxo

    • Oh that is cool. I will look and give some 50 before 50 suggestions.

      Thanks so much for your kind words about me and this cancer of mine. Oh what a journey hey! I am slightly embarrassed that I even forgot it was “about cancer” when I went back to see my Prof last Tues (at his request when I sent him a photo) because I have shifted it to the back of my mind. It came front and centre after he said “I am a cancer doctor”. Oh.

      I am also facing the possibility of more reconstruction and I add I am over it. However if he can see a way to make the mouth/lip area better, I guess I will agree. More about it if it happens.

      Taking the time over this word/intention helped and I have a post ready for linking up with you on Thursday!

      Denyse x

  9. I think it’s fine to take time to figure out what really matters to you. When so much has happened and so much on your mind, it makes sense you feel the way you do. I couldn’t come up with just a word this year and instead, used my values to come up with intentions for the year and hopefully, life in general.

    • That it s great idea. I think that I probably was unconsciously using my values as I searched. I am glad to have taken the time though as it has come together with an over-arching view.

      Publishing it tomorrow and will link up on Lovin Life on Thursday too.

      Happy Tuesday. Stay cool.

      Denyse x

  10. It took me awhile to come up with my word for the year this time. I wanted something that made me push out of my comfort zone. I finally came up with Spontaneous. We will see if I can hold to it!!

    • Oh sounds like a good idea. Out of the comfort zone. And yes, see how it goes but no beating up on yourself if it’s not.

      Happy New Year. We are having temperatures of over 37-40 mark here (celsius) all over Australia now while I suspect your temps and conditions are the exact opposite!

      Denyse x

  11. Wonderful ideas, Denyse. I want a neat list of resolutions which I can stick to and which will make me a more settled, productive, fitter and healthier person. A person with zen like calm and the ability to transcend my insecurities. It isn’t going to happen like that but I will ponder some more. The year is still young and maybe I will find inspiration soon.

    • I reckon you have already created a master list with the words: settled, productive and fitter/healthier
      Now you get to add ideas to see those through as best you can…and then not ‘beat yourself up’ for not actually doing them too.

      Go gently.

      I have purposely added Self-Care Sharing Our Stories every 7th week here as a way to make me remember and to hold myself accountable for what I write.

      Off to our daughter’s this morning – going to be 40s in Sydney’s west – lucky she has air con.

      Denyse x

  12. Nothing wrong with being a work in progress, Denyse! There’s where I’m at right now with life. The willingness to accept the changes and whatever direction life may take me in the next little while is something I need to consciously work on. Other than that. I’m enjoying all the good I have in my life and letting go of what I cannot change / have.

    SSG xxx

  13. I guess we are all W-I-Ps until we die. And I also know that without seeing ourselves that way, then no change or disruption would surely mean dying of boredom!

    I am getting much better at accepting the changes but I also need to remember I need time and not to make my first response the last one.

    I am gearing up psychologically to manage whatever news I hear about my mouth in the next month. I am learning nothing actually ever stops re-modelling in the mouth. Especially a newly built one!

    Denyse x

  14. I love your previous One Word entries, I’ve finally decided on mine – Time.

    There is somewhat pressure on deciding what word will guide us. It’s good, however to have one word, two or none at all! It’s a personal choice xoxo