Saturday 26th September 2020

Women of Courage Series. #30. Jayde.19/2020.

Women of Courage Series. #30. Jayde. 19/2020.

A series of blog posts on Denyse Whelan Blogs to be found here from mid-May 2019: Wednesdays: each week until the series concludes in 2020.

Here is the introduction to the series.

Courage is strength in the face of pain or grief. It’s doing something that frightens you. We face situations that demand courage every day. These situations provide us with choices, and the way we respond to those choices determines our future. Dayne Shuda.

Jayde, now 40 (she will probably hate me for that as she was 39 when she completed her information) is The Jayde Universe from Little Paper Lane I love that we have met in real life….how much fun is it catching up with someone you know on-line. However, we did not really connect even on-line until 2018 when Jayde too had done what we did in 2015, move from Sydney to the Central Coast. I knew of Little Paper Lane shop at Mona Vale and visited once from memory. Sadly, Jayde had to leave the shop and does what she can selling on-line AND amusing (or is it educating?) many of her Instagram followers. Jayde’s social media info is below. Here is more from her. Pink-haired, kindness personified and all round awesome human: Jayde.

 

 

 

What have you faced in your life where you have had to be courageous?

Actually now I am presented with this question it’s quite a fair bit. As of recent, it’s probably been the closing of my shop and moving up the coast with my 2 kids and animals and going online with the business only. I have separated from my husband and we moved from our home to a completely new area. So it’s only been the last year and it’s fresh and new, but honestly with mental health issues for like 22 years and chronic pain, every day’s a party in my Universe hehe

 

How did this change you in any way? Please outline further if this has been the case.

I think I have had to learn to be an adult. That sounds funny as a 39  40 year old woman with 2 kids and 7 animals, that I haven’t been an adult my whole adult life, but when you have a partner to help with life, it’s very confronting to have to take it all on alone when you already have a bunch of other issues with your brain and body. I think the support of my family, friends and online community and talking it out always has been the thing that helped. It’s so simple, but I have been saved by the humans in my life. And normally kids would make you more intense with your feelings, but my kids seem to be a safety net for my brain. Even though it’s exhausting doing everything alone because their dad lives quire far from them and he is 100% away the entire winter, I don’t get time off, but my kids don’t make it harder for me. The work around the house is hard, but the kids themselves really help me physically and more importantly mentally without even knowing it. It’s just their happy energy that uplifts me always. For someone with social anxiety it’s super weird that people are the ones that help me so much. Well MY people do.  

Is there something you learned from this that you could recommend to help others who need courage?

I think just that you CAN. Even when you feel like its the end of the earth and you are hitting the bottom of the ocean, you can tread water, or you can swim?! It’s heavy in that water, its better to swim and lift yourself up on that boat and if someone has a hand to help you, take it. There is absolutely no shame in being supported. You can help them up on their boats too then you all get to have an awesome boat party together and it’s so much more fun when you are supporting and boat partying with each other. 

 

Do you think you are able to be more courageous now if the life situation calls for it? Why is that?

Absolutely. We all have to. If you don’t take leaps sometimes and be brave, you just stay still and never move.  I am right in this low at the minute where my anxiety took over in a gripping way, and the only way to fix it was to fix it. So I chatted to my dr and I changed meds, and then the withdrawal from the first antidepressant was HELL FIRE for my body and mind, and because I have been down the dark deep holes before, I knew that to help myself I had to reach out to the places of light, like my family and online community and friends, and its helping me through in HUGE ways. If I did this alone I would be a mess more than I am. So I make sure I follow my my ‘c’s. Community, chatting, courage, coca-cola and cheese. Always 😉

 

Is there any message you would give to others facing a situation where courage could be needed?

Sometimes courage is just breathing through each day. I think everyone mistakes courage for climbing huge mountains. It doesn’t have to be some Everest act.  Sometimes getting out of bed for me is like climbing Everest but I chose to be proud of myself for doing the hard things. They may not seem ‘hard’ to others but thats not what courage means. It’s about you and your own depths of bravery. No matter the level courage it is. Courage is Courage.

 

Thank you lovely Jayde. I know I was a bit cheeky about changing your age, but heck, we November babies can do that, right?

Denyse

 

Blog/Website: www.littlepaperlane.com.au

Twitter: https://twitter.com/LittlePaperLane

Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/LittlePaperLane/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejaydeuniverse/

 

 

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Comments

  1. Being a single parent is not easy. it sounds like your kids are a blessing for you. Good luck and hang in there!

  2. Hi Jayde and thanks for bringing her story to the series Denyse! I’ve been aware of Jayde and her business on social media over the years but never knew anything much about her. So it’s great to get to know you a bit more Jayde and I know how hard it is to go from having a partner in life to being a single Mum – not because I’ve travelled that path but my sister has and I’ve been with her all the way. It sounds to me like your move was a worthwhile one and it’s wonderful that your kids uplift you and keep you going as they do. Thank you so much for your honesty and for sharing with us!

  3. I commented before but my comment didn’t appear. Apologies if you get two comments from me! Just wanted to say thank you to Jayde for sharing her story and thank you Denyse for having Jayde as part of this series. I’ve been aware of Jayde and her business over the years but never knew much about her/you. It’s lovely to know you a bit more now Jayde. I know how hard it is to go from having a partner to being a single parent – not because that’s been my path but because it has been my sisters and I’ve walked it with her. Sounds to me like your move has been a worthwhile one and it’s wonderful that your kids uplift you as they do and keep you going. You’re doing a fabulous job Mum! xo

    • How good is it when we make that connection. Like you, I did not make the Jayde connection to Little Paper Lane shop and had even visited it some years back.

      Now Jayde and I live in the same-ish areas and we have caught up for coffee and hope to again soon.

      Denyse.

  4. Jayde I loved reading your story. I was separated when my children grew up so never had to single parent them but I’m sure it’s extremely difficult. I do understand how difficult it can be to get out of bed some days. I’ve been there and thankfully seem to have come through that one. You are definitely a courageous woman. Thanks Denyse for introducing us to Jayde. Will check out her SMs. Sharing

    • Lovely to read your perspective too Jennifer and I am pretty sure Jayde will be feeling even more supported as she comes over to read these words.

      Thank you

      Denyse.

    • That’s so supportive and I really appreciate it. Thank you so so much. It’s hard but we do what we can for our babies no matter their age and if we are single or not. Just need to support each other when we can:)

  5. Hi Jayde, lovely to meet you here on Denyse’s blog – and I must say that your hair (and eyeliner!) is amazing. I so admire you managing to do life without a partner for support – especially when it comes to closing your shop and creating something online – another layer to all that you must be dealing with. Thanks for sharing your story and inspiring us.
    Denyse, thanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM

  6. I agree that courage doesn’t need to be an ‘Everest’ it is different for everyone. It must have taken great courage to move with two children to a new area and also start your business online. Thanks Denyse for linking up with us at #MLSTL and sharing Jayde’s inspiring story with us. x

    • Awwww that’s so lovely. I guess I never really thought about it until you said it, but you’re right. It did take courage to move but I just wanted to give them a better life and a more harmonious place for my Brain to live. It’s really been the best thing for us. It’s been so so hard but so worth it

  7. I love your attitude: “the only way to fix it is to fix it”. Thanks Denyse for bringing us another inspiring story.

  8. Hi Jayde!

    I’ve been following you on Instagram for quite a while now (found you through Sonia at Life Love and Hiccups). Your honesty is refreshing and through it all you manage to make me giggle (‘So I make sure I follow my my ‘c’s. Community, chatting, courage, coca-cola and cheese. Always’.)

    I too believe that courage is too often mistaken for only climbing the huge mountains. It can truly be just the decision to even get out of bed.

    Loved reading more about you Jayde. Thank you Denyse for another wonderful woman of courage.

    Sandra. Xx

  9. Sandra!!!! You’re the best! Thank youuuuu for supporting me. My online peoples seriously save me. And cheese

  10. Your attitude is so positive Jayde, I totally agree there are no depths to courage and you are so very brave. It’s been lovely getting to know you through Denyse’s blog and I’m now following you on twitter and insta. Thanks for another great woman of courage. #mlstl