Sunday 27th September 2020

Women of Courage Series. #29. Lorna Gordon.17/2020.

Women of Courage Series. #29. Lorna Gordon.17/2020.

A series of blog posts on Denyse Whelan Blogs to be found here from mid-May 2019: Wednesdays: each week until the series concludes in 2020.

Here is the introduction to the series.

Courage is strength in the face of pain or grief. It’s doing something that frightens you. We face situations that demand courage every day. These situations provide us with choices, and the way we respond to those choices determines our future. Dayne Shuda.

Lorna Gordon, aged 47, and I met in a cafe that probably does not even exist now in Sydney’s Dee Why. Her services as a blog newsletter writer and more had been recommended by a mutual friend. We hit it off from the start and back in those days my blog DID have a regular newsletter that I eventually could put together. We remain friends more on-line these days but we know similar areas of Sydney’s west, where she and her husband and children now live. This year is a big one for Lorna. Her ‘baby’ started big school. Let’s get on to find out more of this woman’s story.

 

 

 

What have you faced in your life where you have had to be courageous?

I moved from Scotland to Sydney in 2005 with my husband, knowing no-one and having nothing but the suitcases we could carry. That was a huge adventure and we never went back.

Publishing my first book took a lot of courage because you are exposing yourself in a very personal way, and once it’s out there you have no control over it. My next book is out this month (September 2019) and while I’m nervous, I’m really happy with it so I’m glad it will be out in the world for people to hopefully enjoy.

I think my most courageous thing was having my daughter. I had undiagnosed PTSD and PND from the birth of my son and I fell pregnant when he was only 9 months old. The fear I faced with that pregnancy was extreme, but I was lucky that the hospital recognized my mental health was an issue, and I was referred to an excellent facility who helped my through my distress.

I went on to give birth on my own, as the hospital didn’t tell my husband I was in labour when they contacted him, so he brought our son with him! What had begun as a thing that scared the life out of me, turned into a very empowering, healing moment.

 

How did this change you in any way? Please outline further if this has been the case.

The birth of my son left physical and mental scars, both of which are healing. People may try to dismiss how you feel, but your feelings are valid, even if they don’t agree with them. Over six years on I still have triggers, but I cope much better these days.

 

Is there something you learned from this that you could recommend to help others who need courage?

Find others who have gone through the same experience as you. If you have had an illness, or difficult experience, speak to others who have had it too, while everyone is different, shared experiences can normalise it for you.

 

Do you think you are able to be more courageous now if the life situation calls for it? Why is that?

I don’t let anything hold me back, I’m quite fearless! I’m not sure if that is my age or just me, but if I want to do something I go for it. What’s the worst that can happen? You fail at a project? Someone says no? If it doesn’t work you pick yourself up and try again.

 

Is there any message you would give to others facing a situation where courage could be needed?

If it’s a project or job then go for it, what’s the worst that could happen? If you are facing an illness or health problem, get external support. Your energy is best channeled into getting better or coping with treatment.

Adding: Lorna recommends seeing your G.P., Hospital Midwife and Community Health Nurse for any issues you may have post-birth and when pregnant if there are any questions or when something is not going as it might. I agree and thank you so much for your sharing this too.

Thank you my friend. I hope the year 2020 treats you well.

Denyse.

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Comments

  1. Thankyou Darlin for sharing! Sharing with other women who have had the same experience is essential for healing I think!

  2. Thanks Lorna for sharing your life stories. You have to be courageous at different times in your life so you definitely qualify for this series. Thanks Denyse for introducing us to another Woman of Courage

    • Lorna sure has conquered quite a few challenges in her life and she is a wonderful woman to share things “as they are and can be”. I think we need more of us to share the real life stories which is why I am grateful for each Woman of Courage who has done so.

      Denyse.

    • I fully agree, we are faced with challenges big and small all the time, hoe we approach them is what defines us. And our lovely friend Denyse has shown all of us how to do that with courage and humour.

  3. Hi Lorna – lovely to meet you here on Denyse’s lovely blog. I always admire (and am somewhat bewildered by) people who can pack up and leave their life and move to the other side of the world where they know nobody – it would take an incredible amount of courage and a very adventurous spirit (neither of which I have!) Those qualities obviously stood you in good stead for the difficulties you encountered with having your babies. I’m so glad you defeated your demons and tackling life head on!
    Denyse, thanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM

    • I hear you on the courage Lorna and her partner took doing what they did.

      I guess many of us many not do that but we can imagine that it does take courage, hope and the idea of doing/having better somewhere along the line, maybe.

      Thanks so much Leanne.

      Denyse.

  4. Hi Denyse, another great woman featured in your series! Lorna I think moving across the world is scary. I did it 28 years ago with my husband and 3 young girls for a year on a Teacher Exchange and ended up loving every minute of it. Your birth stories are very timely as I’m with my youngest daughter awaiting the birth of her first baby and as I get older I seem to see all the problems that ‘could’ happen and make myself quite anxious in the process!! Thanks for sharing your story here with us at Denyse’s blog and I’m off to check out your links now.

    • Yes of course you did that kind of move too.

      We “only” moved around remote areas of NSW. And we only had one child then.

      I am sure Lorna will find your comment of great interest, Debbie.

      Thank you.

      Denyse.

    • Hi Debbie, and a big hello to a fellow expat! I think a move like this is scary for the people not doing it, for us it seemed like it was what we HAD to do. Facing the birth of my second baby was way more scary for me, but you have to move forward and take life by the horns!

  5. HI Denyse and Lorna, my in-laws came to Australia from Italy in 1952 with a suitcase and two children under 5. They didn’t speak English and I always admire the courage and inner strength building a new life. Pregnancy and birth can be scary at the best of times but in your case you were battling with PTSD and PND – now that requires courage. Thank you for sharing your story with us at #MLSTL.

    • So good to know when we share our stories, as you just did too, that we know we are not alone.

      Love the admiration you have for your husband’s parents. What a blessing they have had in your presence in their lives, Sue.

      Thank you,

      Denyse

  6. Thank you ladies for sharing this story of courage. It’s good for us to be reminded that living takes courage, and we all have it within us. Sometimes we think of courage as something that belongs to extraordinary people, not ourselves or people like us. I really love this series. Thank you Denyse. Nice to meet you Lorna!

    • Christie that is such a lovely way to look at courage. The ordinary-ness is in us as well as the ability to lift ourselves with courage, grit and stamina.

      Thank you so much for your wisdom.

      Denyse.

    • Hi Christie, yes, just living takes courage these days, we have so many challenges big and small and we forget our own achievements! I say shout it from the rooftops, stories form ‘ordinary’ people are often the most extraordinary.

  7. My husband’s parents moved to Australia when my husband was 10 and his sister 8. They knew nothing about it other than that my father-in-law had met some Aussie soldiers in Korea and they seemed like nice blokes. It takes so much courage to make a move like the one you’ve done. It also takes courage to ask for support when you’re going through PND. As a fellow author though I can identify when you say that publishing takes real courage too!

    • Wow, I did not know that about your husband. Yes, it is a courageous move.

      I guess I need to remember what courage my then 21 yo Grandmother had to leave her family and country to sail to Australia as a War Bride after WW1. I need to reflect on that more. I wouldn’t be here without that.

      Glad you found a fellow author! You two are now introduced.

      Denyse.

  8. Oh my goodness ladies, your responses have blown me away! I’m so sorry for not replying sooner, but I pinched my sciatic nerve yesterday lifting the shopping bags!

    • Thanks so much Lorna…gosh that sounds painful. I am glad you could pop by now do all you can to help this heal. Hope that you are feeling better soon. Shopping it seems IS a health hazard!

      Denyse.

  9. Hi there Lorna!

    I agree with others here is saying that moving across the world, knowing not a soul, is a very courageous thing to do. Not something that I would tackle so I admire you greatly. I can only imagine
    what it would have been like during your second pregnancy. I was traumatised by the birth of our first child and decided going through that again wasn’t for me. We ended up raising our two nephews and niece so became parents of four kids (and wouldn’t have had it any other way) – things have a way of working themselves out don’t they.

    Thank you so much for sharing your story of great courage with us.

    Sandra Xx