Friday 28th January 2022

What Are My Words For 2022? 1/51. #LifeThisWeek. 1/2022.

What Are My Words For 2022? 1/51. #LifeThisWeek. 1/2022.

Welcome to the first link up from Denyse Whelan Blogs in 2022.

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Happy New Year….

I have re-written, edited and then added some more to my initial post for 2022 and then….scrapped it all!!

Why? I listened to my inner self. I felt what I had written was far too wishy washy. 

I had already decided on the word:

BE

Then I added:

ME

And finally things came together.

I have never really BEEN me …as I see and feel it.

I have been (and continue to BE)

  • A daughter

  • A sister

  • A granddaughter

  • A teacher

 

  • A wife

  • A mother
  • A grandmother
  • A principal

  • A blogger

  • A friend
  • A community member
  • A cancer patient

  • An ambassador for Head and Neck Cancer Australia

 

But now, some years on, I feel I finally can live with those titles and labels but also go beyond them to

BE

ME

1 January 2022

I went for a drive on New Year’s Day, along the water at Brisbane Waters, Central Coast, where the above image was made by me. And on coming home, I was ready to re-do this post! Sometimes taking time to absorb and consider is helpful.

I am now ready to:

BE self-compassionate

BE kind in thoughts & words

BE empathetic to others

BE the me I am proud and willing to be.

BE more accepting of the unexpected, the inevitable and the unplanned….and

BE self-forgiving when I revert to my lifelong ways!

 

For 2022 I have started using an app on self compassion each day as a guide to help me in many ways. I’ve now paid for the app using a 20% discount code from the owners of the app. On 1 January 2022 this quote stood out!

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.

Steve Maraboli.

The current wallpaper reminds me to live every moment

 

I will be interested to read what you are planning for 2022 for yourself and perhaps your blog.

I know I am, for now, pleased to have made the choice to blog weekly (there still may be the odd additional post) and to keep Life This Week happening!

Tell me about you and your ideas for 2022.

Denyse.

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  1. Great minds think alike, Denyse! Our WOTY must be a good one BEcause we both have chosen it in a slightly different format. BE ME says it all doesn’t it? We all need to BE more mindful of living a life that is right for us. It is so easy to lose ourselves in day-to-day living or live by the labels we have been given rather than focusing on ourself. our needs and who we are. Great choice of WOTY and I wish you a healthy and happy 2022, Denyse. BTW, I love the Steve Marboli quote. Thanks for a great start to 2022 with your #lifethisweek link up. xx

    • Snap to us, Sue in our selection of “Be” as a part of our intentions for us going forward in 2022.

      It took me a while to settle on this combination of “be me” but once I did, all the other words I wrote in the post I heavily edited needed to go.

      Learning to be me is an exciting and wondrous journey already and I am feeling more relaxed as I take the steps I want for my life this year,

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  2. Happy New Year Denyse! BE ME are fabulous words for your 2022! That quote is so very accurate – the relationship we have with ourselves is THE most important relationship of all, and the toughest to get right I feel. I haven’t chosen words for the year in quite some time. I think I kind of set an intention or intentions. Last year it was about doing more of what makes me happy, being open and curious and always learning, and being the best me I could be. This year, considering the situation with Mum we are going through currently, I think it will be about acceptance and faith and believing in the strength within myself. I would also like to nurture and grow my art in whatever way feels right as I go along as 2021 has shown me that this is most likely my ‘thing’. I hope this year is a turning point for the world to better days and that much has been gained from the lessons these past two years have brought to us. xoxo

    • Thanks for your kind words and sharing…we ARE all in this together.

      I know I could ‘feel’ your emotions as you struggled with so much on your plate in the latter months of 2021. I am glad you are taking some steps in your growth to manage what are, and will be continuing stressful times.

      You are certainly showing great insight and now putting what you know, when you can, into practice.

      You do have those tools in the toolbox but it’s reaching for them at the toughest of times that can seem nigh on impossible.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  3. Happy New Year, Denyse! I love your words for the year. Letting go of titles is a hard. I hope you get to be the youest you this year. Also, I have downloaded the self compassion app but haven’t upgraded yet. Will aim to do so soon.

    • Thanks so much for your kind and caring words….I know you know that “who am I without a title” is a challenge…but I can see those titles remaining but perhaps fading a bit as I wend myself into being me.

      I already feel the benefits of the app. I have paid for it and today’s session on Looping thoughts was great. I like its proactivity and practicality for me as I am more likely to pick up my iphone that a book of written activities.

      I got 20% off, making it $77 AUD but when I looked at the cost per month of use for 12 months it seemed good for me. The discount was directly from their site. Let me know if you choose to do it because the process of getting app store to recognise I had paid for it took some doing! Done though.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  4. Happy New Year to you Denyse! I love that you scrapped your initial post and started again, I sometimes do that after going for a walk to mull things over. Your word(s) are perfect and I enjoyed reading your reasoning about choosing them. You are on the right track and will have a great year I’m sure. Blogging weekly sounds perfect and I’m so pleased the linkup will be going ahead again this year – thanks again for having us along.

    • Thanks so much Deb for your kind message and words of understanding.

      It’s been bothering me as I created the first post, then edited it so it was two posts…and even then it did not sit right until I came to the realisation of what I could live by:

      BE ME.

      It all flowed after that…and yes, I still have an extra post for next week because of it.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  5. These are awesome words to live by in 2022! Especially since you added “ME”. When I chose “BE” as my word for the year in 2018, because I wanted the year to be stable, the most pivotal changes of my life, which turned out to be great in the end but weren’t at the time, happened. I am so glad you are ready to live beyond the labels.

    • Thanks so much Astrid, I really enjoyed reading your words about “be” for you.

      I will take heart I have chose the direction well via this change of mind I had.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  6. Happy New Year, Denyse! Great choice of words for your WOTY. I hope you get to be you and have a lot of fun this year. Have a wonderful first week of 2022.

    • Thank you Natalie. Happy New Year!

      I am already enjoying the shift I feel inside me having chosen the words, so I am glad I did make the changes to the post.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  7. Happy New Year Denyse. It was interesting to read your process in coming to your word of the year. Getting out into nature always seems to help me with clarity when something is on my mind. It’s great to have #lifethisweek back for another year.

    • Thanks so much Jennifer for your kind words and sharing your process.

      Putting time between writing and publishing allowed me to have the opportunity to consider whether what I wanted to say was clear. And it wasn’t! So editing is a always a handy too.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  8. Oh Denyse I LOVE your words. Or your motto. I might steal it as my unspoken goal for the year. Not to try to be someone I’m not or someone I think I should be or that others think I should be.

    But to be authentically me.

    • Deb, it’s yours! Not stolen but shared. BE ME. It sounds so freaking simple but when you are diligent as I know you and I both are, it is very hard to shake off what has been life’s roles and titles.

      Love that you love it!!

      When you are not authentically Deb, I imagine it feels very uncomfy too.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  9. I love looking at your family photos and reading about your life Denyse. It has certainly been an eventful one.
    I don’t really have any New Year resolutions. For me things seem to travel along the same. I don’t even really celebrate New Year’s Eve anymore. I did sit up and watch the ABC NYE telecast however.
    Happy New Year to you and your family! x

    • Ah Jody, you have so many memories too of course but sadly that man who is the love of your life is not in person to share them with.

      Very very hard yards and you and others are doing. I am so sorry it’s like this but of course I cannot change a thing.

      My view is, from this distance, you are doing the best you can for you and your dear family and that is the most important thing.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  10. Hi Denyse – I think you’ve chosen a wonderful concept for 2022 – it’s something I’ve been working on throughout my 50’s and still have a way to go yet. It seems to be easier to be there for other people than to take the time to do the work to be there for yourself. Being our authentic selves and not trying to be all things to all people is such a lightner for our spirits and I’m looking forward to seeing how you progress with it throughout the year.

    I’ve chosen a more frivilous word this year – less introspection and more positivity. Looking for all the fabulous little moments in life and celebrating them as I head into this new year and new decade of life – it’s going to be an interesting but fabulous year for us I’m sure! x

    • Thanks so much Leanne. I got myself quite mixed up in trying to come to some kind of conclusion until I let some time and distance happen and then, as it often does, the clarity came and the words BE ME were the best fit.

      I am quite excited already to be noticing I have a differing and more confident view of me, for me and about me for “the first time in my life”….maybe too, the gift to get here as been all the journeying that’s brought me to this year.

      Love that you are having a fun and frivilous approach to life. Gosh if you can’t now….then when!! Love too how your creative self is guiding you!

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  11. Hello Denyse – Happy New Year to you and all you love. And here’s to another happy year of posting to Life this Week!
    You hit the nail on the head when you spoke about all the titles we’re bestowed with as we go through life…and your Word/s of the Year (Be Me) have reminded me of something I used to tell each of my girls (and any other young person who’d listen). You’ll be ‘given /known as/ assume/work under’ many titles over the years to come but don’t forget the most important one……you are YOU!
    This year there will be no words (because I lose track of them) just a few encouraging sayings for me to take heed of. Not ‘deep and meaningful’ just plain and simple….that’s me at the moment

    • Thanks so much Cathy for your wisdom and words borne of life’s experiences.

      I looked at and to labels to define myself for many years and probably for similar reasons…to be seen, heard and noticed. Women have needed to over the decades I lived in…and maybe less now, but I was always a bit different in both my ambition and my zeal for good and honest work practices.

      It is now, as I can shed many of those former roles, and even those I still wear more prominently because of my life now, I am excited and content to looking and being me more than I have ever known.

      It feels good too!

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  12. Happy New Year. It’s never too late to be you so I love your word/s. It’s certainly something that we grow into, but also that we decide, I think. Here’s to a positive 2022.

    • Thanks so much Jo. I think “the you” I can be now was glad to have those roles but I have actually moved past many of them, even though I feel proud of them, and finally….all being well, I can give myself the concentration, time and freedom I like.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  13. I decided to not choose a WOTY this year and rather just Live with Intention. But I adore your “Be Me”! Self-acceptance can be so challenging. I’m trying to let myself be OK with who I am – quirks and all.

    • Thanks so much Patricia. Your idea sounds great. Living with intention.

      I am doing better these days at self-acceptance but it sure takes a much longer time than I might have envisaged.

      Being you…how cool, yes to that!!

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  14. I absolutely love your words of the year, Denyse! I actually went to look up that self-compassion app and decided to give it a go. All the things you list for your year are so important for our well-being. It’s so easy to only identify yourself as a mother, or teacher, or similar. That what you do makes who you are and that’s so wrong! I feel that since I

    I haven’t chosen a WOTY before but I did for this year. I want to make this year the year when I learn to handle stress better, go with the flow and live more in the present, with the good things that are there, while ignoring the bad for a while. And I’ll continue the good things I did during 2021 with music, gardening and work.
    It will also be the year when I go back to authentic blogging with no more going astray. As you know, 2021 was a total mess for me and my blogging! I tried everything and even after starting my new blog which I was happy about, I fell into a deep crisis just before Christmas and nearly quit everything altogether. I took some time to stop and think. I didn’t even know why to write anything anymore! I came to realise that most of the blog choices I made during 2021 were to fit in and because I “should” do things a certain way – but according to someone else’s standards! I had wandered off totally from just being ME, while the only thing I wanted to do is to just write and share thoughts, bits of my life and my photos, and chat with people.
    Maybe the blogging chaos at least gave some distraction during a year filled with worry and stress. But I’m welcoming a future where I don’t listen to blog “experts” anymore.
    I wish you a good, happy and self-respecting year, Denyse!

    • Thank you Susanne! And happy new year to you too. I used to listen to so-called blogging experts when personal blogging was very popular here in Australia from 2010 onwards. I attended courses and tried to implement ideas from so-called experts…who it turned out to be making money to give the advice! I began blogging for me, and of course to hopefully engage with readers (not sponsorship or $$) from 2015 and that is still my goal.
      Learning that now I can remain connected but reduce my blog output to weekly and as a result keep the link up going is a great way for me to do so without feeling any pressure.
      I am enjoying engaging with the activities in the app, and yes it costs but I like the reflections too and even when completed it will remain a good resource for me to dip back into.

      I look forward to reading your post and thanks so much for linking up for life this week for the first time in 2022.

      Take care,
      Denyse

  15. What a wonderful focus for the year! I’m still floundering over mine… but I will find it. I have a few ideas percolating but I’m just not quite there yet.

    • Thank you Joanne. I was like that…and once I could see that I waited and yes, the whole idea and process changed and up it came.

      Thanks so much for linking up for the first link up for #lifethisweek in 2022. I look forward to reading your post very much.

      Take care and be well in 2022

      Denyse.

  16. Of all the WOTY posts I have read to this point, yours resonates most to me. I want time to be me. I have worn many of the same hats you have so successfully donned. It is time for us to be ourselves. I might have to borrow your word or tweak it to be mine, too.
    This statement sums up what I hope for 2022 BE more accepting of the unexpected, the inevitable and the unplanned….and BE self-forgiving when I revert to my lifelong ways!

    LIFE throws a monkey wrench into all of my best laid plans and I go nuts when it does. I have got to learn to just adjust, edit, be more flexible.

    Thank you for saying what I wish I had said myself. Now to put my WOTY post together.

    • Oh dear Leslie, how much your comment made me smile this morning when I first read it.

      We are alike aren’t we? Having our relationships, our careers and then finding retirement and still ‘floundering’ about until we realise this:

      WHO am I? WHO is my priority now? It’s telling statement to know we have put ourselves last…and now it’s time to change the queue order…

      By all means, tweak, copy or whatever, words are to be shared. I do not own them.

      Much respect and love

      Denyse.

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