Wednesday 26th January 2022

Time. 34/51 #LifeThisWeek. 103/2021.

Time. 34/51 #LifeThisWeek. 103/2021.

Bernard’s 70th Birthday Gift.

By popular demand, today I welcome back my husband Bernard to share his thoughts with us on TIME. Before getting to his words, I want to say this:

  • he is wise
  • he married me (ok, that was mutually wise)
  • he wrote this and I…..
  • did not really understand it
  • he said ….you will need to read to the end to find out.

Thank you Bernard.

This image taken by me, as an example of time. Others’ feet who had gone before me. Little and Big. Last week.


Tempus Fugit – Or Does It?

Poor old Father Time … He and we have been butting heads since the moment he was conceived.

From that moment He has copped so much abuse and, yet unaffected, marches inexorably


  • I would have finished if only I’d had enough time!!!’

HSC student who has assigned more time to just hanging out when he ought to have been studying.


  • ‘Yer never gave me enough time. How’s a bloke supposed to do a thirty minute job in fifteen minutes?’

Angry mature apprentice  reacting to an incompetent boss.


  • ‘Every day’s delay costs me money. I need to buy some more time!’

Worried builder under pressure to meet an unrealistic deadline.


  • ‘Bein’ in the clink feels like time has gorn to sleep or it’s jus’ standin’ still!’

Woman incarcerated for life for the slaughter of her cheating husband.


  • ‘The faster I work the slower my progress seems. It’s driving me cray-cray!’

Anxious dressmaker working on a wedding gown for a precious princess


This old guy has not a nasty bone in his poor body.

Since he began interacting with humans, he has been the object of relentless criticism and abuse having been laughed at, jeered at and generally flung dung at for just doing his job.

How would you feel being accused of a robbery that you didn’t commit? Plenty distressed I should venture to say!

However, he is not so pure and innocent as to not seek and gain revenge. Just look above to see examples. Who among us can say that they have not felt ‘time is standing still’ when we can’t wait to see what Santa has bought us? Or, that ‘time flies (tempus fugit)’ when we’re having fun. And, the more fun you have the faster it goes. Correct?


We encounter challenges with TIME for we are fallible folk.

We allow our decisions and actions to define whether IT is our enemy or ally.

Whatever the case, we seek to take control of our time as a means of living our own lives and getting the most out of them. Can’t blame us for that!

However, if we are honest – or a member of the Anti-Vaccination Klan – we would admit that attempting to control what is essentially uncontrollable is a fruitless pursuit that can only result in frustration and heartache!


As I see it, the problem is a universal one among our varied and extremely complex humankind.

Nobody really understands him –  that includes your author, even after many, many long years of being closely restrained and guided by him! I now know how a dog on a leash feels! He’s way ahead of us.


  • He is enigmatic (Batman wouldn’t stand a chance against him)!


  • The scientific community would say he’s a fourth dimension.


  • We think we see, hear, touch the old guy passing on by and yet, if we had the grave misfortune to have no functioning senses, we would still have a mental experience of IT through our changing thought patterns. Bit spooky that! Perhaps our brains possess a special faculty for processing time.


  • Can any of us really declare any greater understanding than he is a measurable perception. That’s why we mere mortals need to personify him.


  • It seems this ever-present phenomenon comes in two quite separate perceptions. There is the objective perception, Persona one,  that removes the gender from him and presents as a clinical measurement, informed through clocks, calendars, etc.


  • Persona two is our subjective perception that emanates from our need as humans to connect and form a relationship with him. As is our wont, we just have to give time personality, don’t we?


  • And, of course, when the world was a place when only the male of the species had the authority and importance (albeit, self-) to make such monumental decisions, he was assigned the male gender. This is a bit like trying to understand the concept of God. She’s always been referred to as masculine. But now we know differently – don’t we girls!


So, it seems to me that, in order to change and enhance our relationship with the old bugger, we need to accept that understanding him is a bit out of our reach and probably unnecessary.

I mean, how do we experience something that is odourless, tasteless, invisible, soundless and without substance? You can’t sniff it, lick it, eyeball it, hear it or feel it. That really makes understanding him very challenging.


What we can say is that time:

  • stands, beacon-like, as the only perception we cannot perceive through any of our five senses. Yet, our ‘experience’ of time suggests it has an overwhelmingly, controlling presence in and of our miserable lives.

That’s just great, Bernard! Thanks for telling us in a roundabout way that which we already know!


The author on left with 2 of 10 male siblings.

The author, 4th from left, back with 11 of 12 siblings.


Sorry … Okay, so rather than expending a great deal of precious energy trying to understand something we so obviously can’t, let’s just agree that we experience time through that miraculous organ called the brain.

The brain enables our awareness of time through its relationship with more tangible objects that can be more easily perceived and understood, like the sun! Life in this magical universe is based on relationships.

So, we can get a better appreciation of time by thinking about him in relation to more tangible things. My wife, Denyse, helps me grasp the concept of time better. She, like Time, waits for no-one.


A favourite photo of 2 grandkids: siblings.


They “tried” to re-create this some years later!


And, that’s about as deep as we need to go in this Part One of a two-part post. Seeking to further unravel what it is and how it works is not as valuable as seeking to understand how IT influences our lives and how we can return the favour in order to make our lives keep in time with Time.


We look forward to that, Bernard as I noted in the introduction,  … said you are none the wiser either about time.

Do leave a comment or even a question for Bernard. He is writing Part Two for the blog in a few weeks.

My image to close: more from the sands of time…  the beach.

Thanks for sharing your words, Bernard.



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  1. Bernard, I enjoyed reading your post and the accompanying photos. Denyse’s intro at the beginning of your post made me smile. Time is a precious present that I try to use it wisely and make the most of it.

  2. Hello Bernard, I thoroughly enjoyed reading your post and the sentence about Time and Denyse waiting for no-one certainly made me chuckle. Wishing you and Denyse a lovely week. #lifethisweek

    • Thanks so much Sue. A day for you to remember time..Happy Birthday! I am glad you got a laugh from those words. Bernard can be very witty!!


    • Hi ya, Sue.

      Cheers for your comment. Denyse certainly gets out of the gates quickly. But, I guess that’s all part of the woman I love.

      Kind regards,


  3. Denyse is right – you are very smart Bernard! I thoroughly enjoyed reading your post on time and am looking forward to part 2. I often seem to feel that “I never have enough time” and that “time has got away from me” but more and more, particularly since losing my darling Dad, I realise that time really is very precious and I’m more aware of making the most of it and drinking in the precious moments contained within it. Hope you & Denyse have a wonderful week!

    • I love that you found this post of interest and giving cause to reflect too Min. Yes, time is not something that will wait for us is it?

      Bernard is indeed a wise man and I am very fortunate to have him by my side.


    • Hello Min,

      Thank you for your lovely comment and the compliment. I think I am just a dumb kid who became good at playing smart in order to survive in a ridiculously large family! Spent wisely, as you now obviously do, it can contribute very positively to the quality of our lives.

      Kind regards,


  4. Very wise words Bernard and thanks for trying to explain the concept of time to us. I enjoyed your photos especially the one of the grandkids recreating an earlier photo, very cute! Thanks also for your insight into life with Denyse 🙂

    • Thank you Debbie for your kind words…That first photo H&R is a keeper! It’s actually blown up & in an A4 frame and is here where I work/play/create. Each of us smiles when we see it, and those kids do too!!


    • You’re very kind, Debbie! Sounds like a post all about Denyse might prove more interesting than this dry Time post. I would have to be very discreet though as she’s my boss so I wouldn’t want to upset her.
      The concept of time is really inexplicable. It only exists because it became necessary for our long ago forbears to add structure to their days. So, some guys got together and developed a calendar based on the stars. This was followed up by the table of time measurement. Guess what this prompted the need for? In more recent times, those measurements have become more intensively defined.
      I bet you didn’t expect your comment to spark a secondary post, Deb!!!

      Kind regards,


  5. Hi Bernard – another post full of wisdom and deep thoughts. Time marches on for us all and I sometimes find it quite surreal to look back at all the water under the bridge – to see photos of teenage “me”, or young mum “me”, and many other incarnations. The river of time continues to flow and I wonder what future me will look back on? I’ll be interested to read Part 2.

    • Interesting words where we need to find something to hang onto to describe time isn’t it Leanne. It’s a very slippery thing too. Can’t ever catch it!!


    • Hello, Leanne.
      I like your use of the river metaphor for time. It’s a really good one as it can be taken a step further to aid in the understanding of time. If you were to dip your fingers into that river, the water that hits your fingers is the moment we have. But that’s all we ever have. Once the water has slipped through your fingers it becomes history that cane never be experienced again.
      Sorry Leanne. I just couldn’t resist the stimulus of your illuminating thinking.

      Kind regards,

  6. Bernard, I am very interested in time. I read a lot of books about time (and clocks). I enjoyed your post greatly. You should google the difference between viewing time in a linear way and as a wheel – it really blew my mind. Lastly, I leave with you my favourite quote about tiem by Norton Juster, who I’m sure Denyse knows well. “Time is a gift, given to you, given to give you the time you need, the time you need to have the time of your life. ”

    • Oh Lydia, no I did not known that quote but I do like it too.

      And I am glad you found something of interest about time here from Bernard too.


    • Hi Lydia,
      Thanks for reading the post. I, too, am a clock tragic – especially grandfather clocks. They take me back to some special childhood moments spent with my grandparents and their grandfather clock.
      I shall follow-up on the concept of time as a wheel. Sounds, interesting!
      Don’t you just love the wisdom of people like Norton?

      Kind regards,


  7. Interesting and insightful thoughts about the concept of time, Bernard. What fun it is to re-create old shots, I think I should try that with my kids.

  8. I loved reading this Denyse. Bernard is a marvel. I’m so please to hear there will be a part 2 coming. I didn’t link up today, as I was having doubts about my post that I only finished last night. Usually I allow for a few days so a post can just sit while I think about it, before publishing. However I couldn’t resist popping in to see how my blogger friends were getting on this week. Thanks again for giving us this opportunity. I’ll be back next week.

    • Oh how lovely of you to pop in Jen, and I am so glad Bernard’s words were found pleasing too.

      He will be on the commenting trail over the next few mornings…that’s his self-care done right….and he will enjoy the compliment too.

      See you next week!


    • Hello Jennifer,
      I must write posts for you a lot more often! I think you really are too kind though!
      Look forward to seeing you again in Part Two which will consider ways in which we might enhance our relationships with time.

      Kind regards,

  9. I definitely feel like time speeds up when I’m having fun but often seems to stand still when I wish it were moving faster. Mostly though I just try to enjoy the moment.

    • I am glad you have decided to enjoy the moment..I am learning to do this more too.

      Thank you Joanne.


    • Hi Joanne,
      Thanks for commenting. That feeling is quite justifiable. Even though science will tell you that time is a constant and can therefore not accelerate nor slow down, the psychologists will say that that is a very real phenomenon that becomes more real as you age. Because humans have no other way of experiencing time other than by relative perception, who says that it can’t actually change rate as perceptions are very subjective and vary from person to person. So, I’m thinking we ought to hand any discussion on time over to the humanities and let the psychologists and philosophers explain and validate it.
      Kind regards,

  10. At the moment I have no understanding of time. Seems to change from nothing/slow to too much/too fast a lot.

    • It’s a strange concept alright. Thanks Vanessa.


    • Hi Vanessa,
      I don’t think having an understanding of time matters too much. The most important thing is to look at the relationship we have with it. Are we controlling it or is it controlling us? Keeping our attention focused on what’s going on at this present moment is a great start for taking control. You’re quite right in noting the changeability of your perception of time. As our days unfold and often change by the minute, so too, the way we perceive time in relation to those changes will also vary. So, stay in the present Vanessa. That way you can minimise the influence of the past and the future.
      Kind regards,