Friday 22nd October 2021

Telling My Story. Introduction. 2017.60.

Telling My Story. Introduction.2017.60.

In the past few years my life has changed in many ways.

I could say it has happened from the time I turned 60 I guess and at 67 now, it’s been for longer than I imagined.

I am naming this part of my life a transition yet it is more than that.

Like all humans I am living my life and maybe unlike all humans I am trying to understand myself and my life journey better.

Blogging is going to be one of the ways in which I recount aspects of what I have been learning:

I am a life-long learner.

My story is what it is.

My story.

However, it may help me in writing more about it instead of alluding to part of it or directing readers to past posts.

It is quite hard to confess to finding aspects of life as I knew it have left me and I am needing to become used to what is now.

I will write from time to time and it may be about some strategies and resources I have found helpful.

It maybe necessary to tell  the truth of what it has been like for me. And how that has affected my relationships, with myself included for the past few years.

Like I said, I am telling My Story.

Today makes it the introduction. I do not know when the next one will be.

This work, Stop, from Jeff Foster, in his book: ‘The Way of Rest’ Finding the Courage to Hold Everything in Love is about mindfulness, stopping, staying present.

I would have to add this is one of my biggest challenges. I wrote about ‘uncertainty’ here last week.


Whatever is happening in the circumstances of your life, stop. Just for a moment.

Bring your attention toward the here and now. Let the moment become fascinating. Gently begin to acknowledge what is actually happening where you are. Come out of your conclusions about life, your dreams about past and future, and being to notice the sensations, feelings, thoughts that are present, right here and right now.

Let your present experience – sights and sounds and smells – become the most curious dance in all the universe. You are seeing, tasting, touching, hearing the world as if for the first time. This is your Garden of Eden, your messy, intense, joyous, and heartbreaking Garden of Eden and you are awake to it at last.

Stop trying to figure everything out. Give in. Give up. Give all to the moment’s embrace.

Fall into not knowing…


I hope that you will find My Story of interest and that it will be something that speaks to you to help you in some way. I do not think we have spoken enough nor even considered what it means to become older, to stop work, to find yourself adrift in some ways where you thought there was security. I write to help me as I look back and move forward into whatever is to come.

Thank you for reading!





  1. Looking forward to reading this 🙂

  2. I really look forward to reading more of your story Denyse. You’re right it can be really difficult and confronting to share it with the world, but I think sometimes it’s necessary and useful to so many others. And we need to talk more about ageing and how it effects people differently. xx

    • Thank you for ‘getting it’ Kat. I will be doing it for me but for others too. It’s like so much in life ‘why wasn’t I told?’ So, I am going to tell “it” from my perspective. Great to have this much support too, because I need the encouragement. D x

  3. I look forward to reading Your Story, Denyse! I agree with you about not enough speaking about these important & valuable transitional times. XO, Patricia

    • Thank you dear Patricia. I suspect “it” is not talked about because “no-one” wants to confront it. Maybe I might have been better prepared or not for my life’s transitions if I could have read the stories of others. So, I am writing for myself and for anyone else who might find it helpful. Your support is always appreciated. D xx

  4. Denyse, I’m very much looking forward to this. I think it will be very cathartic for you. I’m similar to you. I’m always trying to understand myself better. Sometimes I wish I could think a little less, but that’s just not who I am. I’m looking forward to reading your story. #teamIBOT

    • Oh yes, let’s try not to ‘think so much’…but when we are wired the way we are I guess all we can do is be aware of this tendency and get out of our heads and into our bodies…that is my goal. I’d like to hope the writing will help me too. Thanks so much! D x

  5. Sounds wonderful Denyse. I know what you mean by saying you’ve felt as if you’ve told the story before and I know I often include links to old posts in which I’ve talked about something but, unless the person has a particular interest, they might not necessarily delve back into the older posts.

    Plus there’s something to be said from looking at something afresh, years later.


    • I am glad you understand what I was meaning about that too. I tend to be a ‘click; back to a post but many may not. I think that I also need to be more open and let my vulnerability show. That is one challenge for me for sure! So used to being in so-called ‘control’. But that is really a veneer. Thanks for your encouraging words Deb. D x

  6. Can’t wait hear more of your story Denyse, I have a feeling we will all learn a lot from what you have to share

    • Thank you so much Sarah. I guess your generation has become used to sharing more widely on-line and via blogging. Mine not so much and certainly not my parents’ vintage. We get ourselves stuck behind a wall of words which never get spoken or written about and maybe mine will help others too. I know I am doing it for me first and foremost as I have been in unchartered waters and they have not been pleasant. D x

  7. I look forward to reading each instalment 🙂

  8. Better put the kettle on so I can sit down with a cuppa and read your story.

  9. My transition started at 50 but I firmly believe every new decade brings about a further change and means you have to re-think everything that has gone before. I’m going to do a post sometime soon entitled “It is what it is” because I feel that sums things up for me – life is good, but there is stuff that isn’t so fabulous but it is what it is!
    Leanne | cresting the hill

    • I am saying “it is what it is” far too much…LOL. It actually doesnt help me much. I do need a mindset change and I am doing what I can with reading and learning. However, I am going to start writing whether it will be helpful to me (or readers) I don’t know but I “wont know until I give it a go”. There you are, another ‘oldie but goodie’ Leanne!!

  10. Looking forward to reading your story Denyse! Loved those few paragraphs by Jeff Foster! I found them quite comforting! #TeamLovinLife

    • Thank you Min. I am not sure how I will start but I am thinking that adding some words by others which have resonated/inspired/helped may be one way. Do you know the work of Jeff Foster? Really good work from a young man who was in the depths of mental struggles too. Denyse x