Thursday 1st October 2020

Kindness In Covid19 Times. 24/51. #LifeThisWeek. 48/2020.

Kindness In Covid19 Times. 24/51. #LifeThisWeek. 48/2020.

None of us can deny Covid19 – Coronavirus – has changed much in our lives since the news of it emerged and then, over time, it affected many (if not all) of us directly and indirectly.

In wanting to recount some of the better aspects of life in Covid19 times, I chose to use this week’s prompt Kindness to hunt out examples from people I know and some from me.

Kindness in Covid19 times as observed by me…and an example too!

  • In the early days of the virus’ grip and the newness of what the restrictions around it meant to us all here in Australia, I noted the smiles and kind words of those who waited as the supermarket entrance to welcome but also ensure we were well enough to enter and to have a clean basket or trolley at the ready. I admit too, that their smiles were returned and a kind word added from me because it has been reported they did not always have the best of times dealing with an often panicked member of the public.

 

  • Moving around the supermarket in those early weeks meant ‘get in and out fast’ but then there was the disappointment of some needed products not being available. When I saw this and others too, we often smiled wryly and then said a few words with resignation  and got on with trying to source something different. One supermarket chain even had needed items behind the counter, kindly asking at the checkout if we needed: toilet paper or paper towels.

 

  • Our pharmacist quickly ramped up their services and offerings to help during those awful early days and made it very easy to have a free delivery of our prescriptions. I did, however, note when I visited one day soon after that the staff were incredibly stressed as not every person they saw understood the need for restrictions so I made sure, where I could, to enquire after them when I was back there. I hope someone got a smile back as a result.

 

  • People out walking…when everyone was confined to home for work/school…were always up for a smile or a quick hello if we happened to be out the front. There was a shared spirit of connection and ‘we can do this.’

 

Later in the Covid19 times:

  • I started my return to coffee places for a takeaway and I was told how grateful they were I had returned and thanked me for my support. How kind!

 

  • Later, I got to return to actually sit for my coffee at one of my favourites and when I asked about a ‘special size’ salad to suit my eating ability and needs, it was no trouble. In fact, it was something the owner was happy to provide me with.

 

  • Taking time to chat and ask how they were faring was something I did at each cafe. I listened to the stories. Often they had operated at a loss in the hope keeping open they would continue to help customers. I returned to one of those places more as a result.

 

And When I Asked Facebook Friends About Kindness They Wrote:

  • When I was still working at the start of the pandemic, a kind person started a list of people who would be willing to pick up groceries and do other messages for the elderly to enable them to stay at home and out of danger. Immediately there was a long list and a roster was made up. This has become a huge success with new life friendships being made. J.J.

 

  • My neighbour drops a hot coffee at my door every so often as she knows I’m WFH. Another neighbour put a huge box of stationery downstairs for kids in the building to collect to make crafts. A girlfriend called my kids to make sure they had something organised for Mother’s Day as I’m a single mum. K.A.

 

  • A friend (through Rotary connections) lives in a town near my MIL and offered to go and see her during the restrictions as we were unable to travel. MIL is an independent 89 year old who lives alone, out of town without any transport options nearby and is used to being on her own, but being vulnerable she was unable to get into town to do her usual shopping. Our friend not only offered to visit her but ended up helping with shopping and doctors appointments and even made her a cake for her birthday. She has been so kind to my MIL and kept us in the loop during recent health issues and she expects nothing in return. We are in her debt! D.H.

 

  • My neighbours (a working couple in their 30’s) delivered a note offering to do shopping or other errands, together with a bottle of wine and the offer of a chat any time. We live in an apartment. I believe the note was dropped into all 32 letterboxes. We know these neighbours very well. It was touching to see such thoughtfulness and practicality! A.H.

 

  • Our neighbors down the hall from us are both ER doctors & just had a baby in February. While the mom stayed home with the baby, her husband worked tirelessly in the ER with COVID cases. During the worst of the pandemic here in NYC they baked cookies for everyone on our floor to cheer all of US up!!! Incredibly caring & kind family. P.D.

Kindness IS personal. I guess for me, the first person I need to be kind to (in words especially) is me. Dropping the inner critic’s voice to a whisper rather than a shout! I am getting better. How about you?

I have written about Kindness before on the blog: here and here.

And last week I changed my blogging links area on right hand side of the blog to show my appreciation for groups of bloggers who do link up for our community called Life This Week AND for those who come here to comment at other times. Do link up a post, old or new, any Monday and if your blog and name is not (yet) there..I will add it. Let me know in the comments I am very grateful for this blogging community!

 

I am aware that each reader and blogger here has experienced the restrictions and rules of COVID19 differently according to their place of living. However, I did want to bring something of an element or quality we can all share:

K     I     N    D    N    E    S    S

What do you recall, in COVID19 times, of kindness? Maybe something you did or had happen to you.

Denyse.

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  1. You have some lovely stories there but the bit I love most is dropping the inner critic’s voice to a whisper. No truer words said. As for COIVD kindness, the pub near us offered free meals to Hospo workers that had lost their jobs. It’s been a really tough time for so many people…

    • Thank you Lydia, I am glad that sentence resonated with you too. It is a very freeing way to be.

      Love that about the free meals and yes, whilst “we” are OK, many have not been and I am not sure when things will pick up.

      Lovely lady who has cared for me by making me an excellent coffee every Sunday since October 2017 broke down as she explained how tough the whole thing has been on her. Whilst we could’t hug as in the past, at least she had a listening ear in me.

      Take care,
      Denyse.

  2. I’ve noticed the kindness and softening of heart in Sydney through the pandemic as well, Denyse.

    It’s been humbling to be a part of. I wonder if we can always be this kind and good to each other.

    SSG xxx

    • It sure would be nice to think it could go on wouldn’t it SSG?

      We have been (and continue to be) part of such changes that none of us could predict and I suspect some of the divisions already being made worse thanks to race and ethnicity now have more and needed attention.

      We are in a state of flux and change. Not sure how it will go…kindness needs to rule!

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  3. It’s so good to read your words and shared stories of kindness Denyse. Always a good reminder to be kind to ourselves too.

    It’s certainly been a weird year so far but it has been good to see kindness enacted in many situations. I like all the smiles when people are out walking, like they’re part of a special club; the kindness shown by strangers while out shopping and the general care people seem to have for others at this time.

    In fact it heartens me no end to read these stories, so many thanks for the morning smiles and the positive vibes from reading this post 🙂

    • A weird year…and even before that…Sometimes, and I am sure not for you, we forget about the latter months of 2019 and the fires…the awful fires…then early 2020 we had flooding rains. Yes, and add the virus.

      The scary virus that put a stop to so much of what we took for granted.

      I was pleased to find some great stories (yours included) from my facebook friends to counter balance the ‘not so good’ news of 2020.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  4. This is a lovely read Denyse. There is so much negativity and bad news around in 2020. Focusing on the positives has been difficult, especially for this avid news reader. Hopefully things will be on the up soon.

    • Yes, I have noticed how affected I can be if I remain on social media news sites for too long. Sad and mad…..

      Noticing the small kindnesses and smiling more helps.

      I made sure I gave our local GP practice some of my home baked biscuits recently. They have had to put up with a LOT!

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  5. How lovely to concentrate on the positives from COVID-19 Denyse. There has been so much anxiety, stress and depressing news that the positive and uplifting stories have been overshadowed. I remember in the early days a note was posted on the notice board in our car park. One of the young guys who lives in our apartment building had offered to do shopping for the older residents. Such a lovely offer and I’m sure most appreciated. I’ve put the focus for this week as Kindness on my FB group and good to see we are both on the same page. Take care and have a lovely week. #lifethisweek

    • Oh Sue, too coincidental…you and me. Last week smiling and this week kindness.

      I know that makes us of very like minds.

      Thanks for sharing your story about the kindness of people where you live.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  6. Thanks, Denyse, for sharing your kindness stories and good reminder to be kind to ourselves, too. The staff in my local grocery stores have been helpful. During this COVID-19 pandemic, I offered to call and chat with my elderly neighbours who live alone. When I walked by a local garden this week and saw the gardener, I thanked him and let him know I appreciate his work efforts to keep the gardens so beautiful. He thanked me back. We’re still under more restrictions than other places here. Bars, coffee shops, and restaurants are open for take out or delivery only, no sit down service yet. Have a wonderful week!

    • That is lovely to read Natalie of how it seems each of us is noticing the kindness of those working where our food and household supplies come from.

      I think that is lovely to give out compliments and wonder why we don’t do it more often! That was very kind of you to let that person know how much the garden meant to you as you walked by. I bet he remembers that for a very long time.

      The restrictions are changing daily here…and in NSW, where we live, all will be lifted by July 1. Social distancing needs to continue.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  7. Love that you are focusing on the positives. One of our local restaurants offered to pay it forward and deliver a meal to someone who was doing it tough. We tried our best to support our local favourites with take away and now that they’re open support them with our patronage – it’s been so lovely to see the relief and happiness on their faces!

    • It felt good to support the coffee place after I found out how hard it was for him, and then as time has gone on going back to my faves has felt like coming home!

      Some of them are putting on a brave face and hoping to see the awful times through. The lovely lady who has supplied me with care and a coffee since October 2017 broke down yesterday (the place was empty) as she told me of how hard it’s been. I would have hugged her…but of course, listening only.

      Glad you are doing your best to be back and helping your locals too.

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  8. For a while I was asking retail workers if they had been treated well but I didn’t know if that was digging up bad memories! I tried to just add more pleases and thank yous to balance out the less kind ones I assume they got in the early period. At least I hope it was just the early period and it’s not still going on!!

    • Yes I was doing that too along with a smile (and even an eye roll, if I heard that things were not great) just to show my appreciation.

      There was so much anxiety in the air around those times. I know I felt it but I wasn’t there 100% of the time like those people were. I could see it in their faces as I had known them pre-COVID. At least they seemed to be sticking together.

      I was grateful for each person who helped me and said more than thank you but like you say, you not sure what it might bring for them. One lady at Woolies told me as I was buying something in short supply that she would have to wait till her shift was over before she could buy it and maybe there’d be none left. That’s tough! Not like that now of course.

      Take care,
      Denyse.

  9. Kindness is indeed personal. So many people have been doing it tough that a little understanding and perspective can be kindness too. It truly is about doing rather than saying.

    • So good to see your weekend away and I bet those people were glad of your patronage.

      It is in the doing and the noticing…and taking care as best we can.

      Thanks Jo.

      Denyse.

  10. I love hearing these stories of kindness. It’s something that the media doesn’t really report on, but it’s very encouraging to know that people are still looking out for each other. My church started up a ‘care team’, to practically and spiritually support people during these times. I think that’s such a beautiful gesture.

    • It is a topic that can easily be passed over but I wanted to draw more attention to it, especially as in these latter times the tension is rising again.

      That is lovely to know about the church care team. I hope too that there would be more of those as well….just doing their acts of care without drawing much attention but keeping it focused on what mattered most. Taking care.

      Thanks Bella,
      Denyse.

  11. Those are some lovely stories you’ve shared Denyse. Thank you for that. Goodness knows it’s much needed. I find it so much easier to be kind to others than myself though – the latter is still a work in progress

    • Thank you my friend….yes we do need the good news!

      My advice to you…take it or leave it….don’t wait till my age to treat yourself with the kindness of a good friend!

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  12. Hello Denyse,
    Lovely read as always. I am connecting after 3 months of lockdown.

    • So good to read this…yay for back to connect.

      What a time it has been and all over the world we have been in different ‘spaces’ called lockdown but all hard to deal with as it so restricted all we loved most.

      Hope you are back out there taking pics…and taking care too!

      Denyse.

  13. Hi Denyse, thanks again for inviting me to your Link-up. I’m a nurse and when the lockdowns started someone set up a Facebook Group for people who wanted to “give back” to healthcare workers. I saw so many generous offers of support there, from food to help with shopping, discounts, free coffee, even offers to walk dogs. There were people making scrub caps and washable masks as well. We were all pretty blown away because we’re often at the forefront of peoples’ abuse and we’re not used to being appreciated. Hopefully nurses and other healthcare workers will now be valued for the work we do!

    • Welcome Christina!

      I follow quite a few people from the medical profession…since my head and neck cancer…and saw, initially how worried they were about availability of ICU beds and equipment then scrubs and masks…what I learned was PPE!

      There were groups sourcing these and making scrubs at home for the hospital in Sydney where I have had my surgeries.

      There was, and I hope still will be, a greater understanding and appreciation of what each person who had to (and still does!) walk into work not knowing what the dangers might be ahead.

      Every gift and thought of kindness was, I hope, well-received and will continue.

      Thank you too for your contribution as a nurse.

      Take care,
      Denyse.

  14. Hi Denyse, I noticed the connection and neighbourliness and kindness during lockdown too. I’m feeling like we’re losing it a bit as restrictions lift – I’m seeing more people back on their phones when they’re walking, and less of a sense of “we’re in this together” than we originally had. Maybe when all the protests etc ease up, people will remember how nice it was to be kind to each other again?

    • Yes there was a quieter, gentler and more open spirit around here: we are all in this together like you said..and the ads.

      But typically as time to return to a semblance of normality arrives, we will, in all likelihood retreat somewhat.

      There is still a lot of worry and tension out there for s many financially that this is one time I am grateful for our small but secure pension.

      The protests(of the non violent kind) need to happen. There has been far too much ‘pushing down’ of those whose voices are not heard. In Australia, there is an on-going need for greater acceptance of the Indigenous people and their culture. Not being political..just speaking my view!

      Take care,

      Denyse.

  15. I think the kindness people have shown each other is one of the wonderful things that have come out of this pandemic. When the news tends to focus on the bad it’s pleasing to see that people really are nice. I really enjoyed the comments of kindness that other people have witnessed. Another good that has come from the lock down is we have all had to slow down. I would be happy for the slower pace to continue. Thank you for adding my blog on your side bar Denyse. I am hoping to do a similar thing on my blog as there are so many bloggers that I want to thank for their support.

    • Lovely to read we are thinking along the same lines here in our support of fellow bloggers and their blogs, Veronica!

      Yes, the world is a place of tumultuous and ever shifting changes right now…and probably many have been long coming.

      However, kindness in its small and larger forms will always be the common currency we can all share.

      Take care,
      Denyse

  16. All these expressions of kindness during Covid are so beautiful. TFS.

  17. This is such an uplifiting post! I love your focus on the positive and am so glad you took extra care to spread kindness, for example at the pharmacy.

  18. Thank you for sharing these tales of kindness during the pandemic, Denyse. We hear so much bad news on TV and social media. It’s such a welcome change to read some encouraging nwes for a change. Kindness is never a waste of time.

    • We all need to get off the mainstream media and blogging to look around and see the kindness in our local and wider worlds.I hope your lockdown restrictions begin easing soon.

      I am very grateful to be able to share what others have experienced as well….

      Take care,

      Denyse.