Thursday 2nd December 2021

If I Could. 31/52. #LifeThisWeek. 2018.67. 30 July

If I Could. 31/52. #LifeThisWeek. 2018.67.

I am pretty sure when I considered this optional prompt is was not about wealth, health and all that jazz. But they were the first thoughts that came into my head starting to write. Instead, I am going to make some lists and here they are:


Photo: Feb 2017

If I could:

  • I would tell this me (above)  that I am pleased that I have made it through a very stressful time related to moving house, leaving family and finishing my work life but…..
  • there is actually more to come. Stress I mean. Yet, despite what it will do to me emotionally, it will teach me that…
  • I am able to shift my thinking (despite my anxious brain) to be able to challenge myself to accomplish what fear had told me was not possible.


Photo: May 2018.

If I could:

  • remember that I have been and continue to be stronger and more resilient than I ever thought because…
  • I have managed a head and neck cancer diagnosis in May 2017 with courage, tenacity and a determination I never knew I had as evidenced by…
  • my ability to bounce back emotionally despite some pretty serious setbacks/hiccups over 4 surgeries and 4 recovery times
  • my physical body’s wonderful capacity to re-generate and heal itself without direct engagement with me, other than…
  • caring for myself as well as I can with a limited eating regime, getting outside each day and doing some walking along with engaging in meaningful social occasions: on-line and in the community


Late July 2018.

If I could:

  • be confident about this man and the love and care we have had of and for each other for the past 47+years then all will be well because…
  • we are indeed a partnership for life and….
  • the laughs and chats we have with each other are as important to our health and welfare as any medicines.

That my friends, is my take on “If I could”.



My blogging friend from Ballarat is starting a first day of the month linky called Good Grateful. I think it’s always a great plan to reflect on gratitude! In fact, I AM grateful to her for rekindling old blogging friendships recently which spurred me on to making a Blog Roll on this blog!

Thanks so much Caz! Her blog is called Room For My Soul. I wish you well and will be there for sure! 

Joining with Alicia here for Open Slather.

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Next Week’s Optional Prompt: 32/52.  Countries I Have Visited  6/8/18.





  1. What a lovely post, esp the bit about the laughs and the chats. I found this so much harder than expected. I kept writing and rewriting…funny. Seems to be about one thing then isn’t!

    • That’s why I often write a bit about ‘I wonder why I thought this prompt up?.’ I set the seeds of past, present and future as headers and then re-visited it a few days later and it worked for me then.

      Look forward to reading your!

      Denyse x

  2. Beautiful Denyse.
    What a special marriage you have. X

    • Thanks Jody. It has had many trials and tribulations: health, wealth (losing I mean) and family of course, but I would say, this child-free and relatively responsibility-free time is working very well for a relaxed and contented “US”.

      Denyse x

  3. Lovely post, Denyse, especially the laughs and chats. They’re the best medicines.

  4. Hi Denyse – I love that all your “if I could”s revolve around the simple things and what you’ve accomplished and your lovely husband who has been your support through it all. Keep smiling and I’m looking forward to when we get to see you in all your implanted glory 🙂

    • Thanks Leanne! I have just returned from my visit to my Dad (2 hours there and back) and probably won’t see him again till I have some teeth. I told him I think it will feel weird for a bit. My implants won’t be happening for quite a while as my prosthodontist needs to make sure a set of false teeth go well.

      More back and forthing to him for a while I suspect!

      Denyse x

  5. I enjoyed your prompt this week Denyse and actually wrote on a different slant. I thank you for always giving me the ideas as usually if I’m struggling about what to write, I look at your prompt and it inspires me. Your husband is a cutie and such a rock for you. It is lovely to see a strong relationship last these days and yours has certainly been tested with your illness. Love to you both and many more years of love and laughter to you and hubby. xx

    • Thank you Sue that is so very kind of you to say. In the earlier years of our marriage it was he who had some severe heatlh problems leading to him being medically retired. I guess, over the years, we have continued to deal with the not so great times – health and work and money – but we still come back to the one thing: we love each other and always have since Day One.

      It is a great way to centre myself when things go awry! He is a wise man who learned the lessons that i am now, many years ago and he is an astute person.

      Denyse x

  6. Loved reading your ‘If I Coulds’ Denyse! I have so many If I Coulds but I’m not sure I want to put them ‘out there’ on the internet lol!

    • Thanks Di! I was headed that way for a while..where would I start?? But then I left the headers of past/present/future sit there for a while and came back to this. Turned out it WAS much simpler!

      Denyse x

  7. If I could I’d get back to writing Monday posts for Denyse’s Life This Week. Oh look, I did it!!!

  8. Whenever I think of this phrase I think of the love song from the 1980s by 1927. That, however, is music trivia. If I could? You know, I’m not sure I’d change anything – except maybe be able to work full-time as a successful author…but having said that I’d probably miss some of my colleagues.

    • I thought of “If I could turn back time” and I can’t remember who sang it. However, I am pleased to read what you said. Interesting isn’t it? Mostly we are pretty sure we wouldn’t change much at all. But I hope you get your wish eventually. Commuting now must be very wearing.

      Love seeing your road trip pics. We lived on a country property cottage outside Narrabri for first 2 years of our marriage. Not there any more…a mere paddock!

      Denyse x

  9. Thank you so much for sharing Good Grateful Denyse. I really appreciate your support and graciousness. Now I must go back and add a link to Life This Week in my post. I totally forgot!!

    I want to say If I Could – I would never cook tea again in my life. But this week my biggest is cooking for me EVERY NIGHT. I am so happy and spending time here instead 🙂

    • My pleasure! I just got a FB memories thing to say that 7 years ago I was in Melbourne at Blogopolis. I remember meeting you though, the next year when DP parents held the conference in Melbourne.
      I reckon cooking every night is very overrated. This cancer thing of mine is boring…I cook what I think I can eat and freeze it in small meals. My hub is OK with his own meal prep most nights. But as a Mum. Oh yes, I remember!! Denyse x

  10. The first thing that came to my mind was If I Could Talk To The Animals…

    What am I like?

    Loved your take on the prompt.

  11. Such a lovely post, Denyse. I especially loved the things to remember for the future. I didn’t go with the prompt but now I’m wishing I had! Hope you have a lovely week ahead!

    • Thank you Sanch, it helps me to reflect..and sometimes I have to wait a while before writing so things get time to become what I hope will work out in my message. Glad you found it a good one.

      Denyse x

  12. I love the way you’ve thought about this! I have put my thinking cap on too, I think these are important questions to ask. Oh and your marriage – so inspiring! I’m only 11 years in and I’m aiming to feel the same way after 47 <3

    • Oh thank you lovely. I must say everything is so full-on at your stage of marriage that you really do need to pay attention to each other as much as you can.

      I am sure, seeing your photos with the Mr you will indeed be that way in the years ahead!

      Denyse x

  13. I think it’s important to remember that we will continue to experience stressful times and setbacks, and I appreciate that you acknowledge that. I sometimes default to thinking that once I get past X, everything will be fine. I think what’s important is that we become better at navigating change and developing sea legs, so to speak, to weather life’s storms.

  14. Hindsight teaches us so much – sometimes I feel like it would be wonderful thought if we could know it all before we go through it.

  15. I’ve enjoyed reading you “If I coulds”. I think we all have many similar. Have a fabulous week. I’ve come to you today from Jo’s Lifestyle Fifty page. Great to meet you.

  16. What a beautiful marriage you have, Denyse!

    SSG xxx

    • Thank you. It is so nice to have someone say that, just as it is to feel very proud of a long lasting loving marriage.

      Denyse x

  17. Lovely post. Al the if I coulds are great but I love the future if I could the most. And you are truly strong to go through so much and still keep smiling.