Sunday 3rd July 2022

Grateful Is The Word For Me For Many Reasons. 38/2022.

Grateful Is The Word For Me For Many Reasons. 38/2022.

I chose ‘gratitude’ as my word/intention of the year in 2020 and actually posted a photo about gratitude for 365 days that year. I am not someone who does not follow through. Mostly. I also had the word engraved on a bracelet and I wear it still…and on the back of it is “for life”.

So I am grateful FOR life...and for the remainder of my life.

 

What Is Gratitude to Me Now?

Even more important!

It’s easy to think of something to be grateful for when things are going well.

It IS more of a challenge to find gratitude/appreciation/thanks on days when life is…rubbish and we cannot see anything to BE grateful for…and here’s where I now know to:

S T O P

and consider…..that I can change my attitude somewhat even in the darkest of time to find gratitude…yes, it’s a dig deep expedition sometimes but it helps shift my inner feelings.

YES it DOES.

Just a few photos here where I can share gratitude for the content and life experience!

Daily Practice and Routine.

Since my cancer diagnosis, and recovery, I have reaped the rewards of making a daily routine to help me manage my emotional health, recovery and relationships.

So, since late 2018….this has been aided by:

My morning routine, before I get out of bed, is to do my Calm meditation, reflect on the messages for that day by writing a response to the question, then completing a ‘sleep’ routine check, and finally (but never least) this:

What Am I Grateful For Today?

Calm also adds some other prompts too, in case they ‘feel more appropriate’… a few examples here:

  1. What made you laugh or smile today?
  2. Who made a positive impact in your life recently?
  3. What are some favourite moments from today…

Now of course, not all of these are morning-applicable so I also have the Self Compassion App which I use each evening.

Why This Works for Me….

I am someone who can pretty easily fall off the wagon of being grateful…. I am by nature a glass half empty person…So, I know I can, via the two apps, remind myself of how I was grateful on a particular day or how I found gratitude. Here are 3 examples from my record of gratitude in the Calm app.

I am incredibly grateful for blogging!

Blogging helped me find many more people to connect with than I may have ever in real life.

I began blogging in late 2010 to held me navigate (then) retirement and help me find new people to connect with. I did, over time, from the Australian Blogging Community back in March 2011 when the first ever weekend conference was held. I also got to attend a few more conferences for bloggers in 2012 and 2013 and then, as my emotional health changed and I needed to step back from education roles and my blogging almost stopped…until 2015.

In moving from Sydney to a new place further north in 2015 I was very determined to ‘do something every day on the blog’ and I posted every day. Gradually I reconnected with blogs and link ups. There was a link up almost every day of the week, and then in 2016, when Kirsty stopped her Monday link up, I put my hand up and made this happen!

And, now, for me blogging is continuing but I am winding up the link up which has had a couple of name changes this year but is known affectionately as Life This Week for just under 6 years.

A long time. And as happens, fewer bloggers are linking up these days as I chose to go monthly, then fortnightly, so in the interests of self care I made the choice to stop after 20 June 2022.

I wrote here about it and there will be a finale post about it on 20 June 2022. This will be the final link up from Denyse Whelan Blogs. Do pop in and link up a post if you can!

But wait...there is one more thing I am grateful for!

That there is a link up called Weekend Coffee Share in a country far from Australia but also part of the same Commonwealth of Nations that I belong to, in Canada. And it’s run by the very efficient, kind and helpful blogger called Natalie. Natalie’s link up invites people from around the world to share their posts, visit others’ and make comments. I am very grateful for her support over the years, and for the story she shared as a Woman of Courage in my blog series.

 

I am not stopping blogging going forward!

Not at all. However there may be different days of the week on which I publish. I have a blog lovin’ button on the top right hand corner of the home page if you would like to subscribe to my updates.

I am grateful to this person who gets me…in fact we laugh every.single.day. And he is kind enough to put up with my requests (at very short notice!) for a photo for #dresswithpurpose. B is my husband of over 51 years, and best friend through thick and thin since October 1970.

I am indeed grateful to be well, after my oral cancer diagnosis 5 years ago. This photo is from Friday 10 June as I was getting ready to go to do some shopping and have a cup of coffee. So grateful I can do this!

Do you practise gratitude?

Oh…in our version of English spelling, we have practise for the verb and practice for the noun.

Take care,

Denyse.

 

Joining in with Natalie for Weekend Coffee Share over the weekend. And grateful to be doing so!

Thank you Natalie.

https://natalietheexplorer.home.blog/

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Comments

  1. Denyse, Thank you so much for your weekend coffee share and for the mention. Blogging has connected us even though we live on opposite sides of the world. It’s impressive that you’ve hosted Life This Week for almost six years. Aside from getting to know you and having the honour to join your WoC series, I’ve got to know a few Australian bloggers via your linkup. Thank you for hosting LTW. You and B look healthy and happy. Keep taking care of each other.

    I’ve been practising gratitude daily for many years. I survived a life and death situation when I was young and that shapes my gratitude for every new day. I’m an optimist and look for the positives even on dark days. Fortunately, I’ve had a very good life overall and for that I’m grateful. I hope you continue joining me for a coffee share any weekend that you feel like linking up. Have a wonderful week!

    • Thank you Natalie for your kind and generous comment. I am indeed grateful these days as I too have weathered health storms. They are the experiences for giving us perspective in life going forward as we know.

      I will join in when I have a new post up, and again your link up is a special place too.

      I look forward to being part of Weekend Coffee Share in the future.

      Warm wishes from us in Winter to you in ‘almost’ Summer.

      Denyse.

  2. Denyse, I have been glad to know a bit about you through the weekend coffee shares and am so glad to know that you are taking care of you and prioritizing your blogging space as necessary. Your optimism and gratitude are inspiring. I look forward to continue seeing you around the these parts when you are so moved 🙂 Those red shoes of yours are *amazing*! Hope you’re enjoying a lovely weekend!

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Thanks so much Melissa.

      It was a move that was coming, to close down my link up, and I am glad to have chosen this decision. I am proud of how long it lasted!

      I do enjoy the community that Natalie has grown with her weekend coffee share.

      I just caught up with your news too.

      I like the red shoes too!! There should be more wearing of shoes like these!!

      Denyse.

  3. Denyse, this is a lovely post. I love the last picture of you. You have an amazing story, and life is a blessing that we sometimes take for granted. We have a great God who cares for us. We are not homeless. We have had amazing doctors. There is amazing medicines available to make us well again. We are able to cope with many handicaps and obstacles (aphantasia) as Leanne wrote about. We have great weather much of the time. We are not broke. We can get around, both on our feet and in cars, planes, trains, and ships. I think I could go on and on. But it’s Saturday morning, and I need to do some other things. Have a wonderful week, my friend.

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Oh Marsha, all of the above!! Yes, so true. When we want to have a whinge….maybe we need to find gratitude because it sure does give us perspective.

      Lovely to see you here and I will pop over and see what you’ve been sharing too.

      Happy weekend my friend,

      Denyse x

  4. Hi Denyse,
    You have so much to be thankful for and proud of.
    A long life with your husband has to be a huge part of that.
    My wife and I have 42 years together. I was 24 and she was 19 so most of both our lives have been with each other. We’ve done various colleges, jobs, homes and kids together.
    Our, thick and thin have not been as challenging as yours but we remain grateful for lives given us and sometimes even the wisdom we’ve found along the way to avoid messing it up.
    Blessings.

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Beautiful words Gary, I am so glad to read of your long and loving relationship too.

      Take care my friend and may we always stay well and connected.

      Denyse.

  5. Hi Denyse, just catching up with a few special bloggers while I’m away on ‘holidays’ – and this is a lovely grateful post and I can relate to much of it. I have thoroughly enjoyed being a part of your linkup for the past few years and getting to know you better and your blogging community members too. No doubt it will be a bittersweet linkup for your final one but you have made a difference over the years and generously allowed others to share their posts via your linkup. I’m glad to read blogging will stay a part of your routine and i look forward to continuing to follow you and read your words.

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Lovely to read your comments Deb and I am chuffed I am a special blogger!

      I do have mixed feelings about the last of the link ups but when it’s time, you are better recognising it for yourself, I say.

      It’s been lovely seeing your photos from the sunshine state, and loved that you got to catch up with Sue,,,and I know how disappointed Jo was when she couldn’t be there.

      I thought I had better make it clear I will continue to blog! I also deleted a lot of posts (not the ones related to my special categories at the top of my blog, I was speaking to my host & i do have one year to keep blogging (paid up!) so that gives me an idea of where I might go,

      Keep well and enjoying Patrick time,,,

      Denyse

  6. Hi Denyse – I think we’re so fortunate to live in a country where there is so much to be grateful for. The safety, weather, culture, societal norms etc – the list goes on, just make living very easy. I think too that the older we get, the more we realize how blessed we are and the less we take for granted. That being said, taking a moment here or there to pause and acknowledge the good things in our life is definitely a good practice and your list is spot on. And thank goodness for life partners who’ve been with us through thick and thin!

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Thanks so much Leanne, we did ‘win’ that partner lottery of life didn’t we??

      I really have to use gratitude at times to get me ‘out of my own way’ and whilst I was a bit a sceptic initially, it sure does work.

      Many thanks for dropping by with your always appreciated perspective.

      Denyse.

  7. Rosemary Carlson says:

    What a lovely post! If we all followed your example about gratitude, the world would be a better place!

  8. This is so great Denyse. I need to check out that app

  9. I follow you on Feedly. Was using Bloglovin’ for a while but had trouble with it not picking up some of the blogs I followed. Will be glad to continue to follow along on your adventures, your exercises in gratitude, and other posts.

    I trying to blog when the mood strikes but hoping to keep from letting it stress me out like it was doing earlier this year. Everything in moderation!

    You and your husband have the most endearing smiles. I know yours came at a significant price. Which makes it even brighter. You look lovely in red. Enjoy having a little more free time to do what you like now that you are blogging a little less.

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Oh Leslie, you are such a sweet cheerleader!! Thank you so much.

      I hope you are feeling a bit better after covid.

      Fingers crossed for us, so far, to have escaped it.

      I didn’t know my blog could be followed on Feedly ! I am pretty useless at knowing that…thanks for sharing.

      And yes to more time for…(whatever life brings) ….as I slow down my blogging pace.

      Take care, and thanks for the very kind words.

      Denyse.

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