Wednesday 1st December 2021

Join In #LifeThisWeek Link Ups! 2017.58.

Join In #LifeThisWeek Link Ups! 2017.58.

New Prompts Below for 9 weeks: 8 May – 3 July. 

Thank you to bloggers who already join in the #lifethisweek Link Up on Mondays!

I hope this post here will encourage more bloggers to join in too. I comment on every post, and visit your blog too. It’s a friendly space to be in the blogosphere!

 

On Mondays from 5.00 a.m. till the Thursday of the same week at 5.00 p.m. you can link up your ONE blog post!

I offer prompts for those who like to play along and get their thinking  caps on to apply their perspective to my prompts.

But, all blog posts are accepted! Off prompt or on! New or previously published posts.

This coming Monday, 24 April the prompt is A.N.Z.A.C. Day, and the following Monday, 1 May is “Taking Stock.’

Every 9 weeks I set a new group of prompts and they are here below from 8 May until 3 July. I add this graphic to the home page too for a reminder!

Thank you to Sammie and blogging friends for the link up here each weekend too. Love finding new people follow and read thanks to link-ups.

Which link ups do you join in when you can?

When I remember…I also link up here with Vanessa for Archive Love. Thanks Vanessa!

Denyse.

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Uncertainty Updated. 2017.57.

Uncertainty Updated. 2017.57.

This post was updated on Sat 10 June 2017.

Did this headline make you a bit wary?

I do not like uncertainty.

However, I am learning that there is no such thing as certainty. Except for death. Apparently!

It makes me nervous and curious and I know how I must remember  that somehow I need to accept uncertainty.

Why?

I would have to say because I have grown very weary of trying to control what I cannot control…but thought I was! Is that familiar?

My journey (yep, I like the word and it stays!) has taken me on a number of learning paths as I seek help to understand life as I don’t know it!

One such person is Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron, and her many books and teachings are in my library now.

I have this book beside my bed and read one chapter a night. Most nights anyway!

This excerpt is from chapter 14.

According to the Buddha, the lives of all beings are marked by three characteristics: impermanence, egolessness, and suffering or dissatisfaction. Recognising these qualities to be real and true in our own experience helps us to relax with things as they are.

The first mark is impermanence. That nothing is static or fixed, that all is fleeting and changing, is the first mark of existence. We don’t have to be mystics or physicists to know this. Yet at the level of personal experience, we resist this basic fact.

It means life isn’t always going to go our way. It means there’s loss as well as gain. And we don’t like that.

We know that all is impermanent; we know that everything wears out. Although we can buy this truth intellectually, emotionally we have a deep-rooted aversion to it.

We want permanence; we expect permanence. Our natural tendency is to seek security; we believe we can find it. We experience impermanence at the everyday level as frustration. We use our daily activity as a shield against the fundamental ambiguity of our situation. expending tremendous energy trying to ward off impermance and death.

We don’t like it that we age. We are afraid of wrinkles and sagging skin. We use health products as if we actually believe our skin, our hair, our eyes and teeth, might somehow miraculously escape the truth of impermance.

The Buddhist teachings aspire to set us free from this limited way of relating to impermanence. They encourage us to relax gradually and wholeheartedly into the ordinary and obvious truth of change.

Acknowledging this truth doesnt mean we are looking on the dark side. What is means is that begin to  understand that we’re not the only one who can’t keep it all together.

We no longer believed that there are people who have managed to avoid uncertainty.

Comfortable with Uncertainty. Pema Chodron. 2003. Shambhala Publications.

I am a life-long learner and I have been learning more lessons about life and me in the past few years than I ever felt possible. I have great respect for the words of Brene Brown and have signed up for this combo of courses on-line called Daring Greatly and Rising Strong. If you are interested in knowing more, here is the link.

Have you given much thought to what it is to be uncertain?

Do you struggle with the notion that we are not really in charge of many aspects of our lives as we might prefer to be?

I’d love to hear your comments.

Next week I am finally owning up to the vulnerability of telling my story. It won’t be confined to one post!

Denyse.

Less than one month after writing this post, I was diagnosed with cancer. More about that here. and here 

If ever there is/was a reason to feel even more uncertainty then this is now. I am doing my utmost to stay present and appreciate now but for someone like me, who thinks ahead, plans what she can and wants to know what’s coming, cancer has been sent to test me on many levels. This weekend, I know that within one month from now, my surgery will have happened. But it’s yet to come. I am grateful for support and care from many of course, but in the end there is one person who must do this and that is me.

Sharing especially today with Sammie who has been the most kind and understanding person as she has faced her cancer and dealt with it all incredibly well. I thank her for her presence in my life. Joining here for the Ultimate Rabbit Hole.

Oh and by the way, I am still reading the above book and am about to commence the second part of the course: Rising Strong.

Joining with Leanne and friends  here who are part of the inclusive and lovely link up Lovin’ Life.

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Try A Little Kindness. 2017.56.

Try A Little Kindness. 2017.56.

I am updating this post for joining Leanne’s Linky here on Thursday 27 July 2017. I have been incredibly grateful for the many acts of kindness that have impacted my life since my cancer diagnosis and subsequent surgery. It makes me really pleased to be part of a world where kindness continues to exist. In hospital all of the staff, with one small exception did all they could within their huge workloads to be kind and in turn I made every attempt to not only show my appreciation in words but to do as much as I could (within the means of my physical restrictions) independently.

The decision to link this older post up was made when I saw my daily Buddha quote. I get these sent to me each morning.

Kindness should become the natural way of life, not the exception.” Buddha.

Denyse.

Original Post Starts Here: 

I listened to a lot of Glen Campbell as a young adult and my husband and I continue to enjoy the oldies but goodies by this man. It is sad that he is very unwell with Alzheimers disease now.

In the spirit of my word of the year

..and letting the whole world know we need more KINDNESS in our lives…right now…here it is. The lyrics and the gentle Glen himself singing it way back.

I will not apologise for the earworm because I think we need to sing it. All together now….

Try A Little Kindness

If you see your brother standing by the road
With a heavy load from the seeds he’s sowed
And if you see your sister falling by the way
Just stop and say, you’re going the wrong way

You got to try a little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

Don’t walk around the down and out
Lend a helping hand instead of doubt
And the kindness that you show every day
Will help someone along their way

You got to try a little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

You got to try a little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you’ll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

Songwriters: BOBBY AUSTIN, CURT SAPAUGH
© OBO APRA/AMCOS
For non-commercial use only.
Data from: LyricFind

Glen Campbell sings here.

Credit: http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=Memories64&qft=+Filterui:userpage-memories64&FORM=VQCHNL

I do hope that you find a way to show a little kindness today and forever.

Denyse.

Joining Kylie Purtell and friends who blog on Tuesdays here. Thanks for link up Kylie!

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Taking Stock. #LifeThisWeek 9/52. 2017.33.

Taking Stock. #LifeThisWeek 9/52. 2017.33.

Thanks to the blogger extraordinaire Pip Lincoln I am taking most of her words from Taking Stock to form this post. I’ve used the adapted list from here too. Thanks Sandra! The new prompts for Life This Week from next Monday 6 March until Monday 1 May, are ready to go here and on the Home Page of the blog. Each 9th week I will ‘take stock.’

Making: art every single day in one form or another

Realising: this is it, life is not a dress rehearsal

Cooking: much less these days and loving that more

Drinking: water and some soft drink

Reading: a long list of books..none of which have been completed (yet) almost all non-fiction. 

Wanting: to have a greater level of concentration to continue to read “Victoria” by Julia Baird

Looking: always looking around me

Pondering: so much and most of it is about ‘life’

Wishing: I had some of the insight into me earlier than now!

Enjoying: the company of my husband each day as we have never been ‘alone’ till past 2 years

Waiting: to have enough money to buy a house 

Liking: that we do not have enough money to buy a house (yet) because it gives us more time to consider 

Wondering: how this word is different to pondering

Loving: that I surprise myself with my art every day 

Listening: to some great self-help and spiritual people on CD

Considering: that I am more capable than I feel 

Buying: books and CDs from on-line stores because it is EASY and CHEAP(er)

Watching: some reality TV, the local regional news and iView catch ups of ABC TV faves

Hoping: that I can continue to accept that I have a chronic condition called IBS and learn to live with it

Marvelling: at the way anyone who has a brain is….

Cringing: about the behaviour of Donald Trump

Needing: to be as kind a friend to myself as I am to others and I am getting better at it

Questioning: why…about quite a few things that I now realise is futile

Smelling: frangipanis on the large tree right outside our back door

Wearing: retirement coastie clothing of coloured shorts and sleeveless top and birkenstocks

Following: lots of interesting friends who blog

Noticing: the days are shortening and the mornings are getting cooler

Thinking: that I would prefer not to think so much

Admiring: my husband who is celebrating his birthday today and is my best friend and love of my life

Getting: to really like our ‘new to us’ lifestyle away from Sydney

Disliking: media coverage which sensationalises and does not provide balance 

Opening: my blog each day and seeing who has commented so I get ready to chat

Giggling: at some of the fun memories I have with my husband about our life as parents and grandparents

Feeling: more positive than the last time I did a ‘taking stock’ post here

Celebrating: February is nearly over because its weather is always extreme

Pretending: I am not concerned about being closer to 70 than 65

Embracing: my husband every day because hugging is good for attachment hormones and I LOVE him.

Do you take stock ..like this or elsewhere? It’s helpful.

Denyse.

On Mondays I also link up here: with Alicia for Open Slather and with Kell for Mummy Mondays.

Thanks for linking up this week.

Here are the rules for the link-up “Life This Week” is a link up that runs every Monday and remains live for until Thursday at 5 p.m.during that week.
* You can link up something old or new, just come on in.
* Please add just ONE post each week!
* Feel free to go with the prompt for the week to add your ‘take’ on the prompt. Or not.
* Please do stay to comment on my post as I always reply and it’s a bloggy thing to do!
* Check out what others are up to by leaving a comment because we all love our comments, right!
* Add a link back to this blog in your post somewhere. I don’t have a ‘button’ so a link in text is fine!
* THANK you for linking up today! Do come back next week. Next week’s prompt is “Must Watch TV”.


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My Word for 2017. #LifeThisWeek 2/52. 2017.5.

My Word for 2017. #LifeThisWeek 2/52. 2017.5.

My word is KINDNESS.

I know the world is a better place for kindness from others and given to others. I also want to focus more on offering Loving-Kindness to myself first…and then to more people along the way.

Glen Campbell’s words ring true in this beautiful video representation of kindness from a video I liked most which is from a Christian perspective. Whether a ‘believer’ or not, there IS something about the reaching out to others to connect us that MAKES kindness so very important. Glen’s music was such a part of my life and I am saddened that he passed away after a long illness  but the gift that is his music remains.

For that I am grateful.

The lyrics: Try A Little Kindness Glen Campbell

If you see your brother standing by the road

With a heavy load from the seeds he’s sowed

And if you see your sister falling by the way

Just stop and say, you’re going the wrong way

You got to try a little kindness

Yes show a little kindness

Just shine your light for everyone to see

And if you try a little kindness

Then you’ll overlook the blindness

Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

Don’t walk around the down and out

Lend a helping hand instead of doubt

And the kindness that you show every day

Will help someone along their way

You got to try a little kindness

Yes show a little kindness

Just shine your light for everyone to see

And if you try a little kindness

Then you’ll overlook the blindness

Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

Repeat last verse.

Songwriters: BOBBY AUSTIN, CURT SAPAUGH © OBO APRA/AMCOS

For non-commercial use only. Data from: LyricFind

This was my word/s from 2016 and I have to admit it was a hard slog living up to the words AND remembering them!
 
So, have you decided on a ‘word’ for the year ahead or are you not into it?
I am somewhat divided on it as I have found that I can choose the word and write  about it but then the challenge becomes remembering what it was as the year progresses! 
I hope you have linked up for Life This Week 2/52. 2017.
On Mondays I link up here with Alicia for Open Slather and Kell here for Mummy Mondays.
Denyse.

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Beginnings. Life This Week. #ltw1. 366/256.

Beginnings. Life This Week 1. 366/256.

Welcome to the first week of the new Link-Up called “Life This Week.” I’ve been writing about the  topic I named “life this week” all year each Monday.

Today’s prompt, which I am following is:-

Beginnings. “Let’s start at the very beginning, a very good place to start” sang Julie Andrews in The Sound of Music. I began my life in Wollongong NSW as the first born to my parents.

At The Dapto Show age around 4.

At The Dapto Show age around 4.

Life was pretty ordinary in a good way from 1949 until 1959 when we made another beginning…. I began living on Sydney’s northern beaches and went to primary school in Year 5 & 6 there, and onto Manly Girls High School until 1967 where I was in the beginning… of the Higher School Certificate cohort. Yep, the first ones to do 6 years at high school instead of 5.

2nd Year of our 6 Years at High School.

2nd Year of our 6 Years at High School.

I knew I wanted to be a teacher but I didn’t get to teachers’ college at the beginning of the intake. No, I was not ‘good enough’ to be given my teachers’ scholarship in February 1968.  Instead, my offer came at the beginning of the first week of the first prac in April so I was thrown in the deep end and swam because I was ready to begin learning to be a teacher! That beginning was awesome and I knew it was the career for me.

In 1970 I began my first year of teaching and left home to teach in country NSW. That was it! Talk about a “get real” beginning. From a spoiled kid with Mum doing pretty much everything for me, to going into a shared house with other teachers. I was soon sorted out by them and I began to learn more about being independent, how to prepare a simple meal, and, reluctantly, how to clean the house. Later that year my life began the path of ‘forever love’ and more as I met my now husband and we began this life of ours that has been 46 years in the making this October.

At our Wedding Reception

At our Wedding Reception

Beginning life as a new bride, teaching in a new (to me) position at a two teachers school (with a male chauvinist boss – not the hub!), setting up a house together, and being pregnant were HUGE beginnings. Mothering a daughter in 1971 and staying home were contributing factors to my beginnings of over-eating to compensate for unhappiness and lack of social contact. There “were” always diets to begin..and we know they didn’t work out of course.

I love(d) being a teacher, especially those kids aged from around 5 to 8. These kids are at the beginning of their learning and I so enjoy being part of that. My teaching career took me, following my husband’s career path because that WAS how the NSW Dept of Education did that then, to places where I had to begin again in new, rural, and isolated communities. This was a challenging time to a couple in the 20s but we did it. And those 8 years hold great memories.

Many years of hairstyles, ages and weight up & down! LIFE!!

Many years of hairstyles, ages and weight up & down! LIFE!!

Then to the beginning of living in a house we mortgaged and lived in for over 14 years in Sydney’s northwest. We had a second child, after thinking that would never happen and we settled into suburban life with 2 kids, 2 cars, mortgage and 2 of us in full-time teaching jobs. In 1980 my career took off as my unwell husband had to medically retire. It didn’t feel like a ‘choice’ but I did it anyway.

Thus began for the next two decades more beginnings…as I studied two degrees (bachelors and masters of education over 7.5 years via distance education) as I taught and lead in K-6 schools in Western Sydney. I began many different programs to help kids improve learning and was committed to staff development and did all I could for teachers to improve and learn new skills. I was promoted three times to executive positions, finally as principal, in 5 primary schools.

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Worked Hard For These….from 1970 to 2006.

Twenty years ago this year, I began a new role. That of grandmother. This was and remains one of my best ever gigs! Our 2 children have 4 children in each of their families and grandparenting 8 has been a wonderful time. We also began as regular carers to some of these lovely little people when I took some leave from teaching, and later, once I had partially retired. By the time I got to 60 it was time to retire. Again.

The first time was not one of choice but of ill-health. I had started my role of Principal in 1999 with great hopes and endeavoured to make the necessary changes within a school community but after almost 4 years it took its toll on me. I did have time out and whilst I was grateful, I really needed to be ‘back in schools’ so I made a beginning as a classroom teacher and ESL teacher in 2004. This was the school from which I was given a ‘retirement’ that I missed before. I began an education consulting role in pre-schools and also began a part-time, casual role as a University tutor and was an external observer for BOSTES. I chose to leave each of these paid roles with the last ones completed in  August 2015.

End 2009 last days as a teacher.

End 2009 last days as a teacher.

What about now? Before I finish, of course I made beginnings as a blogger in late 2010 and have been blogging in different platforms since then. Whilst I had hoped to make a niche for myself based on my education and schooling experiences, readers did not grow.  But I began to meet loads of lovely bloggers in both real life and virtually! Always fun. Mrs Whelan & Mrs Woog Early 2015, we made the beginning of the next part of our lives when we moved away from Sydney to start a life for two on the Central Coast and I “knew” then that blogging would be my daily go-to and it has proven so. I am so very pleased with how I have been accepted by the blogging community as I am way older than almost everyone! denyse whelan facebook profile picture Now, I am beginning my first link-up here, on the blog where I blog about many different topics. Today’s is Life This Week, and that is the name of the link-up! I hope that many bloggers decide to come on board and post here too!

What beginnings are you thinking about right now after reading some of mine? Thank you for reading….I realised that at my age there are loads of beginnings to note! Warm wishes to you all. Denyse. life 150

Here are the rules for the link-up

  • “Life This Week” is a link up that runs every Monday and remains live for until Thursday at 5 p.m.during that week.
  • You can link up something old or new, just come on in.
  • Please add just ONE post each week!
  • Feel free to go with the prompt for the week to add your ‘take’ on the prompt. Or not.
  • Please do stay to comment and check out what others are up to by leaving a comment because we all love our comments, right!
  • Add a link back to this blog in your post somewhere. I don’t have a ‘button’ so a link in text is fine!
  • Respect and tolerance however, are the hallmarks of acceptable on-line social behaviour and as my blog is family-friendly I will reserve the right to delete comments that may be offensive to me or others.
  • Tweet with the hashtag #ltw (adding the numeral for prompt) if you like.

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I am linking up with Alicia from One Mother Hen for Open Slather and with Kell at All Mum Said for Mummy Mondays. Thank you both for your bloggy friendships!

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“Life This Week” Link-Up Starts Monday! 366/252.

“Life This Week” Link-Up Starts Monday! 366/252.

Life This Week is the new link-up from here, on Denyse Whelan Blogs.

Starts: Monday 12 September 2016.

Each Monday I’ve been using the topic “Life This Week” which for me has meant anything I came up with that seemed relevant for that week. It might have been something topical from the news, or something in my life and from time to time I joined in the link-up on Kirsty’s blog.

Now, it’s time to ramp up Mondays around here with a new LINK UP.

On Sunday I introduced the link-up and listed the prompts. I made these topical based on the date/time of the year. They are completely O P T I O N A L. However, if you want to use the prompt then take it however you want to run with it!!

Here’s the list again for those who missed it”

LIFE THIS WEEK

Mondays

Mon 12 Sept 2016 #ltw 1. Beginnings

Mon 19 Sept 2016 #ltw 2. Favourite Family Meal

Mon 26 Sept 2016 #ltw 3. What’s Your Footy Team?

Mon 3 October 2016 #ltw 4. Daylight Saving. Like/Loathe.

Mon 10 October 2016 #ltw 5. 10 Things You Like About YOU!

Mon 17 October 2016 #ltw 6. Which Anniversaries Are Special?

Mon 24 October 2016 #ltw 7. Two Months Till Christmas Eve!

Mon 31 October 2016 #ltw 8. Melbourne Cup Time!

 

Here are the rules for the link-up

  • “Life This Week”  is a link up that runs every Monday and remains live for until the weekend during that week. You can link up something old or new, just come on in.
  • Please add just ONE post each week!
  • Feel free to go with the prompt for the week to add your ‘take’ on the prompt. Or not.
  • Please do stay to comment and check out what others are up to by leaving a comment because we all love our comments, right!
  • Add a link back to this blog in your post somewhere. I don’t have a ‘button’ so a link in text is fine!
  • Respect and tolerance however, are the hallmarks of acceptable on-line social behaviour and as my blog is family-friendly I will reserve the right to delete comments that may be offensive to me or others.

Tweet with the hashtag #ltw (adding the numeral for prompt)  if you like.

 

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So, are you planning to link-up on Monday 12 September 2016?

I hope so, and I look forward to seeing you there!!

Denyse.

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