Sunday 17th February 2019

My Mindfulness Practices’ Update. 13/2019.

My Mindfulness Practices’ Update. 13/2019.

I have written about the value of mindfulness and meditation several times here and here since 2015 and I have decided to update my readers and in doing so, join in with Min of who is launching her ZenTipsTuesday link up today!

Join the #ZTT train by linking up your post about any kind of lifestyle choice, activity, or holiday that helped bring you a feeling of ZEN – peace, or enhanced feeling of balance (mind, body and spirit).

Congratulations to Min. I hope this Tuesday link-up is a great one.

In the past year, these are some of what I practise to achieve mindfulness:

mindfulness: rather than me explain it: this one page article has three ways in which to describe mindfulness and I suggest a read because…it is ‘not all about being in this moment’. Nor is it all about meditation and clearing out your mind. That as I know is impossible and no meditation teacher ever expects that to occur.

 

When I notice my body (and soul I suppose!) not being as in sync as I now know they can be, I try to find s part of nature that soothes me and helps me add the world around me to filling me up again.

A place called Porters Creek – part of Wyong River – is a favourite place to walk alongside and stop and take in what surrounds me.

 

Of course, I have written before about Mindfulness and Mandalas and that is here. However after quite a gap between making mandalas due to busy-ness of making bookmarks from my art, I felt called back to this most mindful of art I do. I love the creative process and then carefully deciding after the pattern has been completed, just how I will colour it.

 

An A3 size mandala created by me and eventually coloured with some of these fabulous markers which has a brush end and a pointed end.

 

Recently I could not settle myself. That happens at times when there is more on my mind than I may admit to: possibly related to cancer recovery. So on this occasion again I took myself out in the car and found a place at Tacoma beside the Wyong River and sat. And looked and noticed: what I held in my hand. Check out the tiny mandala shape in nature!

Sometimes it is the change of view that helps and I get out of my house. This find told me that if I look carefully I will find something of interest. I did.

 

I have learned the lesson over and over again that there is no one right time. Take a risk, give something a go and be kind to yourself as you do so. That is living in the now!

 

Calm is my preferred meditation app now and I have life membership – it was surprisingly cheap and there are many options on the app that it is for me better than my previous Headspace app.

 

If my mind is whirling and worrying sometimes a more complex but different kind of drawing challenge helps me focus on “just one thing”. This is an example of a previously “too hard” mandala in its final stages of drawing.

Taking my time, reading the instructions (!) and doing this was such a good thing for me at the time.

 

I have been learning about Self-Compassion for over 3 years now but am always learning something new about it and myself. I am far less likely to speak to myself harshly these days and I remember to practise self-compassion when I do not have a great day. Completing the Mindful Self Compassion Workbook by Dr Kirstin Neff and Dr Chris Germer is helping cement my practices.

Do you practise self-care? In 2019 each 7th week, for LifeThisWeek I am asking bloggers to share their self-care and self-kindness stories.

 

A favourite way of re-connecting with myself in a pleasant environment is this place. I found it before I knew I had cancer in 2017 and visited it once I found out. I like to walk here and take time to gather my thoughts and at the same time immerse myself in the bigger world beyond my mind!

The walking bridge at Budgie is a favourite.

 

It is no secret to those who follow me on Instagram that the beach is a winner hands-down for me as a mood-buster and a ‘time to give thanks’ spot.

I knew last week this is where I HAD to come at 6 p.m. and it cheered me no end. Especially dipping in the water and facing the challenge of crashing waves!

 

And so, that IS my mindful practices’ update. I hope you are finding this thing we are in called LIFE going well for you. If you are not so, and that happens, maybe some of mine could be ones to help you too.

Denyse.

Joining in with Min from Write of the Middle for Zen Tips Tuesday for the first link up!

On Wednesdays I link here for Midlife Share the Love. Thank you Sue and Leanne.

This Thursday I link up here as part of Lovin’ Life linky  with Leanne and friends.

 

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Just For July #4. 2018.66.

Just For July #4. 2018.66.

The last Just for July. Gosh that did go quickly.

I had a few thoughts about ‘the last post’. Not the song. The post.

And this is what I came up with.

Facts About MY July.

  1. It is a month of ‘nothing much’ usually. Except for last year when I had a big cancer surgery.
  2. I never do “dry July: because.. I do not have a tipple. At all. Any more. I don’t mind one glass of champers and the last time I did that was possibly in January 2014 when Dad was 90.
  3. I considered “no buy July” for about a day…but then again, if you know me well, that was NOT going to happen.
  4. What I have bought to date: crystals (from China) because I really like the textures of them and connection to the earth, some lovely Skin Boss body oil from my friend Kirsten, some nail polish – it has been over  a year since I did anything ‘girly’ as paint my finger nails, and two Moleskin art journals
  5. Seems I have become a bit of a star-fundraiser (well, I was when I last looked) for my head and neck cancer charity Beyond Five because I am second in the individual total for funds-raised. Oh..still not too late! LINK HERE. TY
  6. We had a visit from 4 of our grandchildren. Such fun. So exhausted (for a good reason) when they left. Funny things kids say: from Miss 3 “will Papa take me fishing?” and from her to her five year old sister “don’t talk about my pencil grip”…and from Miss 8 looking at our spare room “Oh the bunks are there but you haven’t had time to make them up yet” Sadly Miss 8, we think overnight stays are done. Sorry.
  7. I set a record (for me) of sitting with a couple of 5 minute breaks in a dentist’s chair for 4 HOURS while he accurately, slowly and very very carefully adjusted parts of the inside of my mouth.
  8. I went and asked the local library if they would like me to run a class (as a volunteer of course) for adults to do mindful colouring and mandalas
  9. Getting dressed with purpose each day is still going strong thanks initially to Nikki Parkinson aka Styling You & her #everydaystyle on Instagram. BIG congratulations to Nikki on her 10th Birthday. Amazing lady who I have known since 2011!
  10. And lastly,  my seeking of places for coffee and is something to look forward to every day. Mrs Woog is a great believer of that. Do you listen to hers and Mrs Berry’s podcast “The Hot Flush”?

Now I am likely to keep these Thursday posts going.
Mmmm I do have to think of a catchy name.

Maybe August Thoughts

or Awesome August…

I shall see. No, I have decided I will continue and the title is Appreciation In August!

 Tomorrow is World Head and Neck Cancer Day. 27 July. Thank you to those who have supported my fundraiser for Head and Neck cancer awareness via my “virtual” Soup for the Soul. See above link.

Happy last week in July 2018 people.

Thanks for your kind responses to my new post topics and lightness here as well.

It’s good for me too!

Denyse x

Joining with the lovely Leanne and her crew for Lovin’ Life Linky on Thursdays.

 

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I Am Back! 2017.89.

I Am Back! 2017.89.

Ok, I am home from hospital and that is good news!
My very brief post today is to let my lovely blogging friends know that #LifeThisWeek Linky will re-commence next:

Monday 24 July.

I intend to publish the future prompts on Thursday when I link up a post for Leanne’s Loving’ Life here.

I also hope to use some time tomorrow to prepare a photo-centred post for Kylie Purtell’s linky here called I Blog On Tuesdays.

In this pic I am 10 days post-op, outside, dressed in going-home clothes  and mobile for the first time. Pretty cool, even if not a pretty face!!

See you all again soon!

Denyse.

Linking up with Alicia here just to say hi to a lovely blogging friend who was so worried about me on my day of surgery. I love you!

 

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Half Year Review. #LifeThisWeek 26/52. 2017.84.

Half Year Review. #LifeThisWeek 26/52. 2017.84.

Since I last wrote a Review post, here, so much has changed. But that IS life, right?

The blogging world is changing and shifting as people enter to start new blogs whilst others may leave taking up various roles based on the needs now. Link ups remain the main way many of us know what others are up to but the link-ups themselves that have been supportive of many are reducing. One factor is time.

Another factor is there is less interaction between the blog posters who add their links and ‘run’ in some instances. Over this past weekend the long-running The Ultimate Rabbit Hole closed its doors forever. Seeing Sammie’s last post for the link up explains why and  makes me realise how grateful I have been that people continue to run link ups.

I wish Sammie well of course, and those who have contributed to the link ups over the years.

I am grateful at this half-year review time for YOU…and YOU…and  YOU..yes, all of YOU.

My readers, my blog commenters and my blog linkers! So, what’s else needs mentioning?

  • We’ve moved into Winter here of course, and Summer for those readers (hello Katherine & Patricial!) from the Northern Hemisphere)
  • For many the upcoming end of financial year will mean sorting out finances and all that jazz. We no longer have to do that as our pension income is low. I do recall though that it WAS one of those jobs no-one really likes.
  • Recently we sorted out a big folder of stuff that everyone needs to be able to find and is a must. I am talking birth certificates, marriage certificate, passports, wills, powers of attorney and enduring guardianship papers. These documents WERE at a solicitors but he has died so we have them with us. Moving around means that we keep them safe…for now. Once we are settled we will be reviewing the documents as they were last done in 2010.
  • And I was diagnosed with cancer in my gums in mid May after a troublesome year with my top, front teeth. Sigh. Read about it here.

As best as I can let everyone know, my scheduled surgery is Thursday 6 July* 2017 at Chris O’Brien Lifehouse in Sydney. I will be down in Sydney at the Lifehouse the day before with my husband for the pre-op clinic, meeting with an anaesthetist and the specialist Head & Neck Cancer Nurse. We will stay one night together here. **

Credit: Golden Grove

The next morning, I am to arrive at the hospital (The Lifehouse) by 6.00 a.m. My husband is going to stay for the next 3 nights at the lovely place because it is within 10-15 mins walk from where I am. He is going to be there for my so-called, anticipated worst days as I will be in Intensive Care for up to 2-3 days. Yikes. Even writing that is scary! But like I have said before, knowing he is there, or not too far away will be very comforting to me. He has always been there for me as I have for him in all the times of our lives.

Holding My Hand….since 1970

*I have been told that date is 85% certain. This is contingent on the special software and model of my mouth coming to the surgical and dental team in time for more planning. It is being made in Belgium. I sure hope it is that date as my mouth is very sore and uncomfortable. I cant believe I am writing this but it will be good to have the surgery done.

**There were offers of accommodation made by family and friends and of course we are grateful but this place is ideal. We were recommended it as a place to stay from the hospital as it is much less expensive than other local accommodation and we are already going to be able to get some subsidy for accommodation and travel via the Isolated Patients scheme as we live > 100 km from the hospital. We had no idea about these things until my diagnosis.

This is my second last post FOR NOW for #LifeThisWeek. Next week is 27/52 Taking Stock.  That will be the LAST until I resume blogging after my upcoming surgery. I have had kind offers from blogging friends to keep the link up going and I have said ‘no, thank you’ because I am pretty sure as I can be, that by the time I am ready to come home (10-14 days post surgery) I will be thinking about blogging again. Watch this space! 

My husband will be letting our family and friends know how my surgery and recovery is going and in turn, our daughter will add updates to my Facebook personal page and the blog page. It is my request (at this stage) to have no visitors other than him because I know I will be unwell, unable to speak much (if at all) and in pain. If I change my mind about this…a girl can, right? Then Facebook will be the place to look. That’s about it. No it’s not. Sorry!

How blessed I am to have made so many friends via blogging and social media since 2010. I have been given enormous support via kind messages, post comments, gifts, phone calls, cards and more. I have each and every wish & prayer tucked into my heart and that is helping me face arguably the biggest (health) challenge in my life till now. This is my message for me and for you! 

Thank you and Happy Monday!

Denyse. Join up here with Alicia for Open Slather and here with Kell for Mummy Mondays.

I hope you are linking up here too.

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