Wednesday 22nd February 2017

My Week 8 Intention. Perspective. 2017.28.

My Week 8 Intention. Perspective. 2017.28.

I’ve mostly been a details person..small picture…even though I can imagine a big picture I need to know details and more.

Now, as I have found in life, THIS is not always possible.

Who knew?

Ok, we all know but sometimes it is hard to let go of welded on beliefs of shoulds and musts.

Here’s where perspective will be more to the front than behind as I work (and play) with my intention for this week.

I want to continue to work with details because I find that comforting and helpful but I also want to keep in mind the bigger picture too.

From this:

 

To this:

My Week 8  intention is to broaden my view, keep matters in perspective and look at the whole picture wherever possible.

Update: last week’s intention of taking a break worked for me in some respects although learner-me who wants to ‘get better’ from her IBS and anxiety continues to seek new information and practise meditation and more. It was good to give myself permission to ‘take a break’ and the supportive comments from many helped!

What’s your intention this week?

Are you a big picture or details person?

Denyse.

Linking here with Sue from Sizzling at 60.

On Thursdays I link here with Leanne for Lovin Life.

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My Week 3 Intention. Compassion. 2017.8.

Week 3 Intention. Compassion. 2017.8.

I am continuing my inward journey this week of intention by learning more about compassion. I have much to learn and firstly about myself. I guess I am tough on myself as many of us are. In fact, both my GP and Psychologist have told me that very thing. I am hearing the words of a very wise man, my husband who says “I expect too much of myself”. What I am doing…and learning…is ‘how to be more compassionate to myself’ as I begin the slow journey of being slightly more confident about how to accept Irritable Bowel Syndrome as it is now because the anxiety it brings can overwhelm me.

Here are some excerpts from an article I read yesterday. The link to the full article is at the end of this.

Compassion is the feeling that naturally arises when you learn of the suffering of another, and that motivates you to want to do something to help. Far from being just a social nicety, compassion has a great evolutionary purpose: Human offspring are the most dependent and vulnerable of any species, and need the most care from others to survive. This total dependence is why Charles Darwin said that sympathy is humanity’s strongest instinct. Simply put: Without compassion we wouldn’t survive.

If you find yourself feeling less moved than you’d like—or maybe your empathy muscle has grown a bit weak from lack of use—here are some ways to strengthen it. You, and every other living creature, will benefit from the results.

Be Kind to Yourself

Sometimes it’s easier to feel compassionate for another than for yourself. But true compassion doesn’t discriminate. The next time you’re having a difficult moment, see if you can offer yourself some kindness. You might be surprised at how much it helps—and helps you to feel kinder toward others.

Turn Values Into Verbs

When asked what they value most in the world, people will often say things like “peace,” “compassion,” or “connection.” But in order to make this real we have to turn these values into verbs, making them more specific and practical. If you value compassion, what does that look like daily? Take out a piece of paper, write “Compassion” at the top and create a list of actions, small to big, that you can start doing immediately.

This is how we live Gandhi’s words: “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

This is the source of the full article by Elisha Goldstein.

My intention for Week 3 of 2017.

“dipping my toes” in the water – making small changes!

Each time I take the smallest steps in gaining some greater confidence about living with IBS I will give myself words of support and ensure I write down how it went for me as my psychologist and I planned.

Are you compassionate towards yourself?

Tell me more!

Denyse.

 

Joining Leanne’s linky called Lovin’ Life here this Thursday!

 

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Fear Is Part of Life. 366/241.

Fear Is Part of Life. 366/241.

To know we are not alone in feeling fear is helpful.

To know that fear is part of life is to be embraced.

When fear arises, be kind and compassionate to yourself.

I make the effort to do this.

It is hard sometimes, but it helps.

For When Fear Is Strong

This is the suffering of fear
Fear is part of being alive
Other people experience this too…
I am not alone.
May I be kind to myself…
May I give myself the compassion I need

Tara Brach in True Refuge
Based on work by Kristin Neff

 

I hope you are being kind to yourself today and always.

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For more information about Tara Brach go here and for more about Kristin Neff, here is her website.

Denyse.

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Quotes I Like. 366/139.

Quotes I Like. 366/139.

Lately I have read that quotes for the sake of quotes are often meaningless unless we can align our belief systems and values to them.

This made perfect sense to me as I continue to learn more about ‘being me’.

A values-centred life is one which helps us align our life and goals as one.

As I have said before, I continue to be a WIP – work-in- progress!

I’m studying a number of approaches to mindful living, and acceptance commitment therapy combined with the books by Brene Brown, Elizabeth Gilbert, Anne Lamott, Elisha Goldstein, Russ Harris, Eckhardt Tolle and Tara Brach.

The quotes below have meaning for me.

What about you?

Denyse.

Here is the  source:

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My Dream Travel Destination. 366/123.

My Dream Travel Destination. 366/123.

This is not what some people might think.

I do not want luxury nor a destination that is by the beach.

I do want to travel in comfort!

So, I am leaning towards Business or First Class if I need to continue the ‘dream’ but if reality makes this happen more likely would be Premier Economy. I would be travelling solo too. I prefer that! I’ve been to the US mainland and Hawaii (yes, I know part of US) and did that 16 days solo as well.

Where am I wanting to go?

I want to go to where my forebears came from…the ones on Dad’s side that is.

It’s to the United Kingdom to visit England and more than anywhere else, Scotland.

 

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My British Isles heritage means a great deal to me. In fact I have just signed up for a paid (shock at the cost) account for 12 months on Ancestry.com so I can look up the various members of Dad’s family line and learn more.

I travel to learn. I like to find out facts and more wherever I go. This travel destination would have it that is for sure.

However, I have left one place from the list and it remains an important one. I would like to visit the battlefields of France where so many people lost their lives in World War One.

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My paternal grandfather was an ambulance driver and medic who was injured a few times after exposure to mustard gas. When he was repatriated to recover after treatment it was to a hospital near Warminster close to where my paternal grandmother lived. They met there and she came to Australia on a War Bride ship after their engagement in 1920 to live in Wollongong. When my grandfather was de-mobbed back in Australia they married. His heritage is Scottish as he was born in Scotland, at Cowdenbeath, but his family moved to Australia for a better life and work options. My grandmother’s widowed mother and her brother also emigrated to Australia once their daughter/sister lived here. I grew up hearing stories of both parts of the UK and I want to see those places. My dad has visited them, along with mum, in their travels in the 1970s and 80s.

Now it’s time for me…if I ever get to do this. I “may” have left it a bit late but I can still ‘dream!’

Do you have a dream travel destination or more?

Denyse.

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Thanks for this prompt Kirsty. Here’s the place with the link up called I Must Confess.

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Following My Heart. 366/104.

Following My Heart. 366/104.

In my life’s journey (ok, it might be cliched but I like it!) I am learning to be less ‘head’ oriented and more ‘heart’ oriented.

Today I read this and it made sense. The article is about the one regret here 

So I gathered some of the shots I have taken over this past year or so as I am recognising that my health gets better each time I am more heart-centred.

I also have found by doing this I am pleasing me first and not others! Well, I guess I am still “On My Way” to doing that!

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Stillness at Sunset….and noticing 5 ducks on the way home.

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My LOVE

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Heart-felt tribute

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Noticing nature is in my heart

 

Do you follow your heart?

Denyse.

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Joining with Raychael at AgentMysteryCase for Worth Casing Wednesdays.

And over here I am linking up with AllMumSaid on Mummy Mondays.

Friday today and it’s a week or so since I wrote this post but it needs a little lovin’ so I am flogging it over here with Grace for Flog My Blog Friday.

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Do You Know Of Tara Brach PhD? 366/83

Do You Know Of Tara Brach PhD? 366/83.

I ‘found’ Tara Brach’s work via my husband’s study in his counselling degree when he sent me an article by her.

I am seeking ways in which to both understand my current challenges with life’s transitions and to help me through.

The first way was begun last year when I commenced my daily meditation practice via Headspace. I have written about that a few times!

However, like all things learning-wise, the more we learn (especially about ourselves and our behaviours) the more we want to know to grow and understand.

That’s what I am like anyway!

Many readers already know that from time to time I am finding some of life’s DOWNS of uncertainty and insecurity hard to handle with intermittent anxiety rearing its head and often the resultant IBS (irritable bowel syndrome).

So for me, the lovely words here, and via the CDs and Tara Brach’s Youtube videos are amazingly helpful and I know, as I paraphrase Brene Brown  I am not alone..it is not just me!

If you would like to check out what I have found helpful, Tara Brach’s website has much  more information there than I could ever try to supply!

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How are you going today?

What is your recent learning in terms of your own health journey?

Do you know anyone who also has IBS as a reaction to anxiety/stress?

Take care everyone!

Denyse.

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Joining in with Raychael for Worth Casing Wednesday over here.

And on Fridays I like to join with Grace and Friends over here for Flog Your Blog Friday.

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I Wish Someone Told Me. 366/73.

I Wish Someone Told Me. 366/73.

I am doing an art course with Tracey Fletcher King called Delicious Paint. I did this in 2015 and I am coming back for more ‘deliciousness’ in 2016. See here for more details. The good news about this year’s class is that the content, videos and more sharing via the Facebook group and pintersest is that its a life time access one. No more ‘having to get it done by’ in this year’s course.

Tracey is a most encouraging and talented artist who is the first to agree with the notion that teachers are still learners. That’s my philosophy too Trace!

She mentions this wonderful quote and provides a link here.

The person who made this is Ira Glass. Tracey says on the intro video that she has no idea who Ira Glass is… but his name rang a bell for me as a sometime listener to a lot of podcasts! I let Tracey know that I’d  be writing here once I realised!

He is a contributor to This American Life.

I “knew” I knew him from somewhere.

Here’s his quote in words…and via you tube here:

 

This is so very helpful in ‘this creative process’ and I am pleased that I can share with you too!

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What do you think about what he has to say here?

Can we be too quick to ‘give up’?

I like to think I have persistence but I also know …from this experience….that the creative process has to engage me as well.

Denyse.

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