Thursday 24th October 2019

Women Of Courage Series. #2. Megan Blandford. 60/2019.

Women Of Courage Series. #2. Megan Blandford. 60/2019.

A series of blog posts on Denyse Whelan Blogs to be found here from mid May 2019: Wednesdays: each week.

Here is the introduction to the series.

Courage is strength in the face of pain or grief. It’s doing something that frightens you. We face situations that demand courage every day. These situations provide us with choices, and the way we respond to those choices determines our future. Dayne Shuda

Welcome Megan Blandford who is in her late 30s.

 

What have you faced in your life where you have had to be courageous?

Asking for help has been the most courageous thing I’ve done. That doesn’t sound very hard, but when you’re going through a real challenge reaching out can feel like the toughest thing in the world. It took me years of going through depression to really understand that I didn’t have to do it all alone, and that asking for help wasn’t a sign of weakness – it was actually a sign of strength.

How did this change you in any way? Please outline further if this has been the case.

Asking for help – from my husband, family and friends, as well as professional help – meant that I could start to live a happy life again. It helped me learn to be kinder to myself and drop the expectation of being ‘strong’ all the time.

Is there something you learned from this that you could recommend to help others who need courage?

The most incredible thing is that, when you let people know you need them, they almost always step up for you.

Do you think you are able to be more courageous now if the life situation calls for it? Why is that?

Absolutely. I think that once the mask is down and you’ve shown that you needed help once, it’s easier to say it again. That’s not to say it’s suddenly easy! But it’s a bit easier each time, in each different circumstance.

Is there any message you would give to others facing a situation where courage could be needed?

If you need help with something – whether it’s a big thing like a mental health challenge, or something small in your life – it’s worth knowing that if the help you reach out for doesn’t work out, there are always other options. Keep asking until you find the help that’s right for you.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Find Megan here via these links.

Facebook Page : www.facebook.com/meganblandford1

Instagram: @MeganBlandford

Megan is the author of this book, recently released. I have a copy and it is a great and honest read.

Thanks Megan for sharing and for being a Woman of Courage.

 

 

 

 

If you would like to share your story of being a woman of courage* please let me know in the comments and I will email you. That would be great! *There are no men included as I  think we women do not talk or not write about our stories which is why I’ve  called the series: Women of Courage.

 

Denyse.

My story is here and last week’s about Sam is here.

Next week’s Woman of Courage is Katherine.

Joining each Wednesday with Sue and Leanne here for Mid Life Share the Love Linky.

On Thursdays I link here for Lovin Life with Leanne and friends and on Fridays, it’s Open Slather here with Alicia.

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Comments

  1. How brave of Megan to share this, especially as we try to raise awareness of mental health issues and it’s ok to talk about them.

    • I agree and the more we do share about mental health issues we will be enabling others to come forward.

      Megan is shining the light for others.

      Thank you.
      Denyse x

  2. I think it’s so important to start the conversation and ask for help if we need it – Megan’s right it doesn’t sound courageous but it really is! And yay for publishing a book!

    • So true. Megan is courageous and has written such a good book! By sharing her story, let’s hope many women and men get to understand more about post-natal depression.

      Denyse x

  3. Depression is such a soul sucking thing to deal with. It’s a slow spiral downwards and it takes a lot of courage and fortitude to find your way back again. Good on you Megan for seeking help and allowing others to support you. Too often people try to hide it and do it alone – worst thing you can possibly do! Thanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM 🙂

    • Thank you for your kind and thoughtful comment Leanne.

      I am sure Megan would agree about its challenges and difficulties.

      I was so pleased when she decided to share her story. It does help others when we do.

      Denyse x

  4. Accepting your vulnerability and asking for help is tough – and writing about it is even tougher. Kudos to you Megan, and thanks Denyse for bringing us another courageous woman.

    • It is courageous indeed to share our vulnerabilities but if we do not, then we are not being our brave selves…I know, I sound like Brene Brown, but from my experience, it’s true.

      And Megan has done this so well. I agree, a woman of courage!

      Denyse x

  5. Thanks Denyse and Megan for sharing these words of courage. It is so important, as everyone else has said, to ask for help and not see it as a weakness. I have shared for #mlstl

    • Thanks Debbie, the more we share means that those of us who struggle know we are not alone.

      Megan’s book reminded me of the times of being a first time mum and I know how hard it was for me too.

      Denyse x

  6. I can very much relate as I HATE asking for help and rarely do it. Almost never. I had a bad time recently though and had to call my mother to come and get me as I realised I wasn’t capable of driving the 40kms to her place, well, I couldn’t get out of bed let alone ‘do’ something.

    I felt terrible. I mean, I’ve relied on her in the past but never let her see me quite so broken.

    • Oh Deb, that is hard to have to do that but I wonder how your Mum felt. I imagine she may have been glad she could help her only daughter and that you could reach out to her was a tender moment for her.

      Sometimes we sure are our ‘own worst enemies’ when we probably need to connect more. I hope that you are OK…but I also know that you are struggling and again, hope that you come through this rough patch in life.

      Take care, you are a much loved person in my world.

      Denyse x

  7. Such an important issue and one we can never discuss enough, Denyse. It does take courage to ask for help especially when you have mental issues. I don’t usually ask for help but sometimes you just have to reach out for that support. Loving your series and guests and thanks for sharing at #MLSTL. x

    • I wonder why we can’t or don’t ask for help?

      I believe it is a lot to do with mental health being a subject which is still, for many, shameful and a sign of weakness. In fact, to reach out for help is to be both brave and vulnerable.

      Each of us holds tight to our internal world generally so we are not ‘seen as being vulnerable’ by others but each of us is also suffering to one extent or another.

      We need to connect.

      The very reason I continued to blog 365 days a year in 2015 was to ease the disconnect I felt from moving and reach out to those I knew in the world of blogging. I am glad I did.

      Thanks for your kind words about the series.

      Denyse x

  8. So lovely to meet Megan – thanks Denyse. As someone who has suffered with depression, and anxiety I admire your courage Megan. Though there’s a lot out there about mental health and it’s talked about a lot more these days, there still is a stigma attached to it and it is very hard to speak up and ask for help. Also, often those suffering withdraw and isolate themselves … so quite often it is up to all of us to be watchful and observant of those we care about and check in on them if something seems amiss. I am in awe of the fact Megan has written a book. I will definitely be looking it up! #TeamLovinLife

    • Thanks Min. Interestingly this series is opening up the conversations too. I was delighted when Megan took up the offer to be part of the series as I knew how busy she had been in the lead-up to the book’s publication.

      Denyse x

  9. Talking about problems, and especially having someone to talk to who listens and understands is SO important. Love this series Denyse, it’s bringing the fact that we all have struggles and we need to be talking about those struggles openly, to the light. #openslather

    • It certainly is, and what a person Megan is to share her story at the same time of getting out there to promote her book.

      I was unsure if she would take part being caught up with the new book but she accepted and I could not have been more privileged to have her write her responses to the five questions.

      I am glad I have started the series, and so far I have had enough responses into July.

      Thanks so much for your kind words.

      Denyse x

  10. Hi Denyse, Thank you for introducing me to Megan. The message takeaway for me is “Asking for help is a sign of strength.” A great serie/topic since every person has shown courage in some way. Megan is an inspiration. Nice to meet you:) Erica #MLSTL

  11. What a great post. Here in New Zealand, there has been a recent effort to remove the stigma of mental illnesses which is wonderful as we have the highest teen suicide numbers in the world. 🙁

    • Wow, that is not a figure to be proud of is it?

      We sure do need to de-stigmatize mental illness but so many times the conversations are ignored or not well understood.

      People such as Megan, and via her book, are helping the break down those barriers.

      Thanks for visiting.

      Denyse x

  12. Hello Denyse and Megan!

    Another strong message here you’ve given a platform to Denyse. If the help you seek doesn’t work out there are definitely other options. Sometimes it’s true that you summon the courage to share your story and ask for help and for some reason the help you’ve so vulnerably enlisted in isn’t the right fit.

    People will often give up at this point because taking that step takes a lot of energy. But, we must keep trying. Asking for help is often seen as a huge step… and it is… but it’s also made up of many little steps including a side step or two to change course on your desired direction.

    Love, Sandra Xx

    • Thank you Sandra. Yes, asking for help and then maybe things not working out can be so hard. Overcoming our reticence to be seen as ‘needy’ is a huge step to admit our vulnerabilities and have others see them too. It is the only way, it seems, to move forward and not stay stuck.

      Lovely to see you here again too Sandra!

      Denyse x

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