Sunday 8th December 2019

Who’s Grateful? 23/2019.

Who’s Grateful? 23/2019.

I am!

Are you?

This ‘gratitude’ thing has been around lately wherever I read. Conquer fear by being grateful. Acknowledge your gratitude whatever things are like for you. Honestly? Are there days like that when you wonder ….I do not think I am grateful for that day or what’s going on in my life, or ….and there is an endless stream of possible negative situations..

I know.

But…can you ever take yourself out of those situations for a minute or more? I am pretty sure you can.

When you can move out of the head that is keeping you going around and around in the same negative cycles that pop up in our lives and do this:

  • look up
  • look around you
  • touch something close by
  • smell the air
  • taste the food that has been sitting on the plate
  • remember a song you always loved
  • have a smile at something you saw yesterday

that is being present. By being present you are also able to be grateful and practise gratitude!

It is not always about writing in a journal. Nor is a certain number attached to a list of what you are grateful for.

I know that just by harnessing those thoughts away from the centre of self…to the outside and  what is around you then some of the inside relaxes just by the feeling of gratitude! I have found this works well. Even using your fingers (no-one needs to see this) you can count 5 things you are grateful for or even the ten using the second hand!

 

The social benefits are especially significant here because, after all, gratitude is a social emotion. I see it as a relationship-strengthening emotion because it requires us to see how we’ve been supported and affirmed by other people.

Indeed, this cuts to very heart of my definition of gratitude, which has two components. First, it’s an affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good thing in the world, gifts and benefits we’ve received. This doesn’t mean that life is perfect; it doesn’t ignore complaints, burdens, and hassles. But when we look at life as a whole, gratitude encourages us to identify some amount of goodness in our life.

The second part of gratitude is figuring out where that goodness comes from. We recognize the sources of this goodness as being outside of ourselves. It didn’t stem from anything we necessarily did ourselves in which we might take pride. We can appreciate positive traits in ourselves, but I think true gratitude involves a humble dependence on others: We acknowledge that other people—or even higher powers, if you’re of a spiritual mindset—gave us many gifts, big and small, to help us achieve the goodness in our lives.

from here.

I am grateful every day.

As someone who had a cancer diagnosis nearly 2 years ago I can be grateful for this in so many ways. Whenever I feel a bit ‘over it’ which is perfectly human response, I take a minute or too and remind myself of how many people who are supporting me since my cancer diagnosis and I am incredibly grateful for them, medical advances and those in reconstructive surgery and how many new friends I have met as a result of having cancer!

So, what ARE you grateful for right now?

Maybe it is just being able to take time to read a few blog posts!

It could be you are grateful for the weather today so you can get that promised walk in.

It may just be that you are grateful for time to consider your life and how good much of it actually is.

Denyse.

Joining Min for Zen Tips Tuesday here.

 

 

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  1. Hi Denyse, I’ve just been for a walk, the sun is shining there is a hint of Autumn maybe arriving and it just feels good to be alive. We can never be reminded enough about being grateful for life. Have a great week and saw your post at #ZTT. xx

    • Thank you Sue. Must be great to feel that touch of Autumn in Qld. We are noticing the mornings are cooler but we are up to 30s again today.

      Denyse x

  2. You are incredible Denyse to still be able to focus on gratitude during such a scary and challenging time. I wholeheartedly agree with you about gratitude and the benefits of practicing it. It saved me when I went through a horrendous time back in 2012. It pulled me out of a spiral, anchored me back in the present, and enabled me to change my thoughts to more positive ones by focussing on the good things and beauty around me! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic and linking up with #ZTT xo

    • The thing is, as I know, I cannot only see the ‘not good’ as I can spiral down again easily.

      It takes a willingness to pay attention and get the benefits of gratitude.

      Like you, I do what I can when I can to help minimise stress and anxiety.

      Yesterday I even remembered my breathing techniques when I sat waiting for my prosthodontist appointment.

      It all helps!

      Denyse x

  3. Hi Denyse, I’m grateful for my children who all live miles away but make me smile with their funny messages each day and the fact that they find me so ‘special’. I pointed out to them today that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. I always find you inspiring so I’m grateful to have your posts to read and the others in my blogging world. #lifethisweek

    • Oh that sounds great. I would like to have a relationship like that too but, sadly, it does not occur. However, I always feel connected in one way or another to the adult kids and their offspring.

      I am always appreciative of your kind words and support Debbie!

      Thank you.

      Denyse x

  4. I think even in the darkest of days there is always something to be grateful for. Although I don’t have a journal, I still enjoy the practice of being grateful. Right now, I’m grateful for the time I had in the UK with friends and family, grateful to Qantas (and the convenience of modern air travel) for getting me home in one piece and of course, grateful to be home with my love.

    • It sure is good if you can think that way on the worst of days…I know I can but it takes effort.

      Then usually the effort is worth it. As the default in we humans is to the negative bias (and even more so for some of us) then it can be hard to “always look on the bright/best side”. I am learning…truly!

      Glad you are home safe and sound and you got all caught up when you were away.

      Denyse x

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