Thursday 21st November 2019

When You Know You KNOW. 2017.30.

When You Know You KNOW. 2017.30.

It is said that ‘when you know…you know.’ Do you agree?

I could apply it to some life choices I’ve made, including the acceptance of my now husband’s proposal.

Sometimes it can be applied to finishing up…leaving..stopping…whatever life is bringing you.

For me, the time I knew what I knew was here:

More than a year prior to when this photo was taken, I had retired from my University tutor/marker role. I still continued to have my small consultancy to pre-schools open but it too was brought to a halt thanks to the distance from the workplace and where we now lived but I also knew it was time. I loved continuing with teacher development Β as an External Observer with NSW Board of Studies in 2015, however, changes to the structure there meant that my qualifications no longer met the new standards and that worked well for me to say goodbye.

There was ONE more professional role I enjoyed. It did not pay me, nor would I want it too. It was, however, a wonderful place and space in which to share my experiences and be part of a highly engaged professional community. This is via meetings called Teach Meets. And it was to be held back in Sydney’s Northern Beaches at my old High School! Of course I wanted to speak..and have a last look around my ‘old school’ from the 1960s!!

This post tells much more about the talk I gave that evening.

But, something within in me KNEW that this would be the last time I would be involved in any paid/volunteer role in education and I felt both glad and sad. However, I KNEW it was what I knew and I was so pleased to have made the choice for myself.

Here. Where I went to High School from age 12-17. Where I had decided to become a teacher if my HSC results were good enough. They were.

Manly Girls High School in my a Senior School for Yrs 11 & 12 on Northern Beaches

It was the right choice! Both to start…and to!

1962. First cohort for the ‘new’ Wyndham Scheme HS kids. 6 years of HS. I am second from left 3rd row.

Some parts of the school were unchanged since I left in 1967.

I loved having a personalised tour from the Principal of my ‘old school’. Much had changed, but this view had not. From the ‘canteen’ area.

Giving my final talk as part of Teach Meet in August 2015. I have no regrets. I have an amazing number of memories. I also remain in touch with educators via social media and continued to enjoy the conversations but I am glad to no longer have any professional responsibilities.

Last time for this!

I’m a great believer in knowing when to go!

Are you?

What decisions did you make because you ‘knew’?


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  1. Sadly the most recent one was a friendship. It only bought pain and angst and so when I decided to just not reply to them, a weight was lifted. So both good and bad πŸ™‚

    • Oh that is true. In my case, I took some time afterwards to actually absorb the concept that I would never be returning to any kind of workplace re education. I still have to remind myself from time to time if ever I am tempted. Because in essence it is not what I want any more. I hope this is the case for you too.

  2. Wow! What an amazing contribution you’ve given to education in so many differing roles. I can completely understand why you’re both sad and glad. I resigned from my permanent teaching position last year after seven year out to be a stay at home mum. I ummed and aahed for a long time about officially resigning, and in the end knew that it was time to let it go. Maybe I’ll go back to teaching but (luckily for me) it’s not a decision I’ll be forced into, rather one I’ll want to pursue.

    • Thanks Melinda! Always good to feel the decision is in your hands not anothers. I wonder what you will do in your future? It sounds like life right now is just what you love. Good for you!

  3. I love this post, Denyse. I thought I knew when it was time to leave my last job, but now I’m not so sure. I sometimes have regrets. I think I spend too much time worrying about what ifs lol.

    • Thanks Renee, I understand. I remember when you were doing the ‘will I wont I’ too. But I also remember that it filled you with negative vibes at the thought of returning so maybe that was it. Hard to look back and wonder. I have done this a lot, but in this one decision I “knew” and I also “knew” it was a most appropriate place to STOP!

  4. I’ve “known” quite a few times but when my husband first asked me to move in with him, I knew we were a done deal!

  5. Sometimes I am spectacularly good at this, sometimes I am spectacularly bad.

  6. Learning to trust my own judgement is something I’m working on in therapy at the moment. As you know, anxiety can really trip you up when it comes to making decisions.

    • Oh hell yes. I have been surprised by that quite a few times thinking I was ‘losing it’ but it is an aspect of this low grade anxiety and loss of confidence. I think from what you have told me the work this counsellor and you are doing together sounds like the right balance of caring and challenge. Mine is like that too but this week I am wiped out by IBS and want no challenges for a bit..I know I will come good again.

  7. I knew it was the right time to resign from my job when I did, even though I still felt a bit uneasy about it. I’ve never regretted it though and am so glad I went through with it. #teamIBOT

    • It’s a bit definite that resignation thing isn’t it? Of course you’d be wondering but look how you feel now. It was right and you can trust that you KNEW!

  8. Gosh I feel like I never know when ti go. Unless it’s a job that’s getting old.

    • I think that was it for me. I saw that I no longer wanted to try to keep up in a profession that was fast changing and I lost motivation for that aspect. It was TIMEly that I could say to myself (and to the group there) that this was it. Of course, people say ‘oh you’ll be back..’ but no, I am not. I remain in touch on twitter and FB in terms of education (and this blog) but no longer feel any need to stay connected as much.

  9. I’m a shocker at it. Just saying. I attach too easily and detach with difficulty.

    • But, but you have done this…recently I do believe…hope you are OK…Mind you, I am sure you will be with loads of everything working out all at once. It’s TIME!

  10. Yes I agree totally Denyse. I recently resigned from a part-time web writing job for hotels and resorts because I just knew it was time. I had too many other things happening in my life and wasn’t doing a good job of any of them so something had to give. I’m feeling very liberated now and I can now concentrate on my freelance writing which has really picked up in the last few months. πŸ™‚ #TeamLovinLife

  11. You have done some amazing things Denyse and I completely agree with you. Even though a decision can be hard to make, once you’ve done it you KNOW if it feels right.

    I hear it referred to as intuitive decision making / living, but I think of it as going with my gut! πŸ™‚

    • Thank you Deb. Right now I “wish” I knew enough about what the future holds as I am not good with this right now…but apparently no-one does so I need to pull back from that one don’t I?

  12. Such a positive post Denyse because unfortunately some people don’t really know when the right time to go is. They hang on and become disillusioned and disappointed. You have done so much and I applaud you for making the decision which is right for you. Very encouraging post. Have a lovely day xx

    • Thank you Sue. I have seen people hang on too long and it can make a workplace very unpleasant. However, my retirementS were indeed over a period of time but that last one, even though it was a small role, it was significant enough for me to know to make IT the last time. I hope you are going OK in your part of wet and windy Australia.

  13. Knowing when to go is a key skill for a happy life, but not always easy to go. Particularly hard when it comes to relationships.

    • Oh Jan, yes indeed. You have made an excellent point and one which I am somewhat familiar with in terms of how it was time to leave our family behind when we had to sell our house to become mortgage free. Even though it was not a ‘relationship break-up’ things changed irrevocably for us (and them I guess) as distance and regular contact has made it so. I am still feeling that. But, I have to add it is about the fact that we cannot go back to those days. I am thankful that we had those wonderful times but now they are over. Life changes. That IS a fact.

  14. Very poignant that you should start and end in the same place. I suspect a few tears were shed, but expect as you say, that there was relief too. I agree, sometimes you just know it’s the right time, and sometimes you push harder to go on because you know the time isn’t right to stop. Being in touch with our feelings is important, and I always think my first gut reaction is generally the right one. #teamlovinlife

    • It was indeed Johanna. I was stoked to go back to my old school after all those decades. I got a personal tour by the principal and it was amazing to see some huge changes but that there was still enough for me to recognise where I spent those 6 years. In fact, this year I am part of the NSW cohort that did the first HSC 50 years ago. My gut is doing a bit too much reacting lately..thanks to IBS. Yet, it “is” telling me things too.

  15. Oh yes. I remember saying no to something that on paper made perfect sense because I knew. #lovin life crew

  16. I knew when to leave the Australian Public Service. I had achieved every goal I’d set out to achieve. I’d been involved in so many amazing projects and programs. I’d worked with the best boss I could have imagined. I’d traveled overseas. And then just before I left I got to talk at a big conference and I just knew that was the time to leave. It was all done. It was time to go home and be with my babies.
    I just knew.

    • I did not know you worked with the APS. I guess, somewhere in their working lives, most Canberrans seem to have a role there. I like that you KNEW you had done what you set out to do and be and then could make the choice to be home. Now look at you! Going so well. Denyse xx

  17. I was amazed when I saw the title of your post Denyse, because I said those exact words within my post ‘when you know, you know’. I knew when I walked away from my corporate job that it was time. I had had enough. I’ve known for many decisions I’ve made in life. I agree – when you know you know! #TeamLovinLife

    • Ha. Like minds here! Yes, it’s good to know when it is time. When people don’t then they can make it a harder time than they realise for themselves and others.

  18. I totally agree with “when you know, you know” – although sometimes it takes my head a little while to catch up with my heart (and gut) because I’m always so careful about making big decisions. I think you just have to take the plunge sometimes and go with what your instincts are telling you.

    • I so know what you mean as I can make up my mind….then have a longer think but in general we do know what’s right. Our decision is made and we have to be confident it will work out. I tell myself that anyway!!