Monday 19th March 2018

Seasons Of Life. Revisited. 70/365.

Seasons of Life. Revisited. 70/365.

I am nearing the beginning of Winter in my life…and that is scary…

Only because like so many of us, I have sailed along in life, waiting for the “next thing” or “time for travel” or “happier times”

Life is NOT a dress rehearsal.



Ages birth to early mid 20s.

  • I had a wonderful childhood growing up by the beach, and lots of people who cared for me, and about me.
  • My education was in two excellent school settings, and even though I was a “bit naughty” in school, I got into Teacher’s College to fulfil my lifelong ambition.
  • I worried about my weight. Totally unnecessarily. I was sometimes socially anxious. But I had a great social life.
  • My career started in the countryside of NSW, where I was living away from home for the first time at 20.
  • I had independence, a car, full-time permanent work, and I met the man I married.
  • By 21 I had married, become pregnant-ok it was the other way round 
  • During my 2nd year of full-time teaching, I went on maternity leave, and has my daughter 3 months before my 22nd birthday.
  • My stay at home days were isolating, lonely, boring, and I cooked and ate to relieve those feelings. So yes, this is when I truly was overweight.  

SPRING years…

What season are you in?
Denyse xx
NB: comments already here are from the original post which linked to Essentially Jess and IBOT in 2012.


  1. I am in Summer. What an interesting way of looking at it. As for why we treat it like a dress rehearsal at times, I know not why. Perhaps because there are so many instances where we get second chances that we just seem to take it all for granted.

    Fairy wishes and butterfly wishes

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      It is my take on life, nothing more nothing less…and it was spurred on by Jess’ post too. Second chances, and more, are helpful in life, but sometimes there is just one chance. Thanks for commenting R, love connecting here too. D.

  2. Jeez…that means I’m just about done with two seasons already! And they’re my favourites!!! Wished I had’ve paid closer attention! Lol..

    Seriously though, I think human beings are just constantly evolving creatures, hence the apparent “dress rehearsal” syndrome. And because we interact with other human beings who are also evolving, we are compulsed to be dynamic creatures. So we are never really just one person. There are many versions of ourselves but with a basic core personality. Some of them we like. Some of them we don’t.

    Life is definitely about the journey and not the destination. And it’s not so much what happens along the way that matters- it’s how you choose to deal with it that really counts.

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Yep. Almost half way..and then…But I love your take on the dress rehearsal..I do agree. Life circumstances change and grow, and yes that’s a good point. Love the comment as it has provoked my thinking about this more. XXX

  3. Well, according to your seasonal chart, I’m at the end of my summer…what??!!! Just kidding. I’ve always been a late bloomer I think so maybe I’m still in spring ?? Again, just kidding.
    Life’s awesome right now. Wouldn’t have it any other way.
    Please make sure you include some of those “a bit naughty” stories in a future post. Thank you xxx

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      I am NOT a naughty girl…oh alright maybe a little bit, sometimes. However, I shall remember this when contemplating the next post. I love that you are loving your season (whichever it is LOL) and as you say as a late bloomer maybe you could stay summer for much longer. D x

  4. I am in the cold and flu season.. arrived the 1st day of winter.. but it plagued me the last few weeks of autumn with my lil ones getting ill and finally passing it on to me..

    I love rugging up in winter and hate showing my legs in summer…

    I also just finished off a piece of cake.. winter.. food.. comfort… mmMmm hot stews, soups and roasts.. what more do we need for winter.. yummy yummy food!

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      LOL. My seasons related to my ages..and what happened in them, but I loved reading your seasons now..and I agree winter is fabbo for comfort food. D xx

  5. I LOVE THIS!! I am in summer and can not wait to read about it. Rachel x

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Thank you Rachel…I love that you love it. summer gal! Will do my best next post..and see how I measure up. D x

  6. Going by your system, I am in autumn like you Denyse. And turning 40 has certainly woken me up to the brevity of life. On the one hand, that’s kind of sad, but on the other, I needed this perspective to make sure I am really living my life as I want. I felt like I changed a lot in my 20s, but less so in my 30s, even though this was a period of monumental change in my life – ended the long term relationship with the father of my daughter, to marry not long after and have two more children very quickly. And now, at 41, I feel like the past few years has brought real growth and a little bit of wisdom. Maybe because my personal life is now sorted. I look forward to reading more of your theory and your life. As for the cart before the horse (aka baby/wedding), there is no point in waiting, right? x

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Loved your take on the baby/wedding order. Thanks R! I think that from what you’ve written you are seeing what I am thinking..up to around 40 or so, there seems endless years to “do, be, whatever” and now that I’m in my 60s I look forward…to what I am not sure. It’s been a thinking post hasn’t it? Your life’s journey has had bumps and turns you may not have expected. Now, you sound like this journey is working its way for you as you’d choose.Nice one. Denyse x

  7. I’m in Summer and it would appear my days are numbered until the season changes! I look forward to hearing more about your seasons Denyse. This is the first time I’ve heard this expressed this way, quite interesting.

    • Denyse Whelan says:

      Hello Summer…that’s it…you have been given a time to consider I guess a little of my theory. I had been living the life for quite some time with no true idea of its length (I know none of us have a definite idea) …now I am becoming more understanding of limits. Thought provoking isn’t it? D.

  8. I guess I’m technically summer which is a good place to be in I think. I like shorts and singlets.

    Interestingly, you could take the analogy further with our seasons up here. We have ‘the build up’ before the wet, which is horrid and hot, but delicious when it breaks with the first great storm. I suggest that a lot of people live their loves in the build up, waiting for everything to happen.

    Love this little series. Can’t wait to read next weeks. 🙂

    • Thanks Jess! I too like your analogy. It’s also a bit like saying “oh I can’t wait for my holidays” or “when it’s Christmas” …we cannot live life properly like that but we do.
      I feel some pressure to deliver in this series now… I can do it..I think I can I think I can. D x


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