Friday 20th April 2018

My Intention & ‘Word’ for 2018. #LifeThisWeek 2/52. 2018.3.

My Intention & ‘Word’ for 2018. #LifeThisWeek 2/52. 2018.3.

Here we are, one week into the New Year and whilst I do not make them any more, it was clear in the media (who are, let’s face it in the business of selling their stories!) that it’s time to make New Year’s Resolutions.

The reason many of us choose not to any more is the real and perceived lack of willpower or character when we ‘fail’ to live up to them. This link re anxiety which can be heightened by making New Year’s Resolutions. So, it is not good for us it seems to do these!

In becoming more mindful over the past years to enable me to live more in the moment I note that my teachers, from the Buddhism area, talk of setting an intention each day. It is in doing this, and appreciating what we already have, that our present moments are valuable.

Last year my intention WAS to set an intention weekly but I ended up giving myself too much pressure to perform over it!

Not helpful in my mindful pursuits.

In 2017 I made KINDNESS and being KIND to myself and others a priority and in fact, the lightbox above where I am writing now, held this message for the year. It did help me centre myself more in the times when I became more negative about myself.

I also embraced gratitude as a mental and written practice. I was not consistent every day and there were days (as you can imagine when I first knew I had cancer!) that I did not feel grateful at all.

What is it to be for me in 2018? I was struck and somewhat humbled by various comments to me personally and in writing about how I have been managing the news of cancer, the surgeries and the long recovery times. The word which arose time and time again was BRAVE. I certainly saw myself as someone who usually actually rose to which ever occasion that was a challenge but didn’t quite think of it as being BRAVE.

Neverthless I am continuing to tell myself that perhaps this word IS a message for me to carry into 2018 as more surgery and recovery times await. So, my WORD was to be BRAVE….and then I listened to Brene Brown in her latest publication Braving the Wilderness and considered B R A V I N G. Here’s what Brene writes on page 149:

B     BOUNDARIES

R     RELIABILITY

A     ACCOUNTABILITY

V     VAULT

I      INTEGRITY

N     NON-JUDGMENT

G     GENEROSITY

Yet still, this was no quite what I wanted. For some weeks prior to this post I have had these words on my locked screen on my iphone and I thought they would be the intention for 2018:

BE THE BRAVE OTHERS SEE IN ME.

And that seemed sufficient until 5 days ago when I thought of a WORD..which was both self-contained and an acronym. Here it is:

B.  Be (brave)

O. Optimistic

L.  Loving & Learning

D. Determined (Denyse)

So, that is it. I am content with this and already have it here….and on my wrist! No, not a tatt! But an old-fashioned way: an engraved plate on a sweet little bracelet I will wear 24/7. My eyes can go to it and be reminded when my brain and confidence may be lagging and I can be:

B.O.L.D!

My “message to me” bracelet.

Sign Above Where I Blog.

There it is. An intention and a word with more!

Do you have a word or intention for this year?

Have you found that you forget them as the year goes along? I confess to that in a few years gone by!

Thanks for reading, commenting and hopefully linking up too!

Denyse.

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Comments

  1. A word with a twist! Love it 🙂 BOLD. Perfect. xo

  2. Your message to me bracelet is great, Denyse! I think I need one for myself. I also like that this year’s word for you doubles as an acronym.

    SSG xxx

    • Thank you. I had the idea because I “need” a visual reminder and when I can “see” what I need to remember it really helps! Denyse x

  3. Love it! Great word and acronym. And you’ll never guess what my word is. No, it’s not cake! LOL xo

    PS. Sometimes it’s cake…

    • Oh Ness, you make me smile. Thank you! Cake is “understood” to be your word and often mine, right? I LOVE that you are colouring for mindfulness! Denyse x

  4. Love it – it’s perfect for you…and best of all it doesn’t have a Glenn Campbell song to give me an ear worm over! Lol.

  5. I love that you turned your word into an acronym and that you got it engraved on your bracelet. I don’t have a word this year, and to be honest, I’ve forgotten what it was last year. And my only ‘resolution’ (yep, I don’t really like to set them either) is to not buy anymore clothes for at least six months. I cleaned out my wardrobe of clothes that don’t fit me any more (I’ve stacked it on a bit) and there is just so much that I hardly ever wear. I end up wearing the same things all the time anyway. So that’s my ‘aim’ for the first half of 2018.

    • Thanks Kat. Yes a word or intention not only needs to make sense but also to last. In 2015 and 2016 I had some words…still can’t recall them easily without looking up the blog post. But as having the word in the lightbox last year reminded me a LOT about how to treat myself when I was struggling I knew that if I did something like that again it would help. Yep the bracelet thing takes it another step up to keep me mindful of what I want to be.

      About the clothes thing, oh my goodness I too have had to do a proper giveaway and clean up and in some ways it’s more helpful to a better sense of who we are NOW rather than who we used to be. I am finding though that I am enjoying my eating more…and there is a slight creep up on the scale. I never want to be obsessed again about weight so I am tempering my behaviour by reducing but not denying myself things. I so want to keep wearing my nice new clothes too!

      Denyse x

  6. Love your word Denyse and being an acronym it is much for personal for you. I don’t do resolutions anymore but I do still have my word for the year that defines how I want my year to be. Happy New Year and here’s to being BOLD and THRIVING!

    • Lovely to read your word Sue. Yes, my acronym helps me remember how I want to be and how I have been in the past. That is vital as my mood goes down a bit as this recovery takes its time and I know there is one (last I hope) surgery and more recovery to come.

      Denyse x

  7. I love this Denyse. I wish you all the best for 2018, and I do beleive you are all of those things that make up being BOLD x

  8. I love it Denyse! I loved reading the story behind how you came to the B.O.L.D. word and I love the “be the brave that others see in me” that inspired it. I have thought you to be very brave and very inspiring during 2017. 🙂 xo

    • Thank you Min, you are a kind and gracious blogging friend and I value your friendship! Your support today and always is much appreciated. I am glad you enjoyed the story. There IS always a story it seems! Denyse x

  9. It’s perfect for you, Denyse. I did not set out to look for a word, however, ENJOY kept popping up in my mind. When I wrote down what I enjoy doing and what makes me feel good, I came up with Fitness, Entertainment, Arts, Social, and Travels (or FEAST). Happy New Year!

    • Yay for your ‘word’ and how you came about it. I love that one! And it has to suit the person and that is why it will work I am sure to guide you in 2018.

      Thank you for visiting and commenting! Denyse x

  10. Hi Denyse, I think BOLD is an ideal word for you, but I also like BRAVE, maybe it can be a supporting word? I have had STRENGTH/BE STRONG float around in mind for a while, but my intention for this year is to focus more on myself & my needs, my family and business. So I think it might be FOCUS and STRENGTH as a supporting word. xx

    • That sounds like a great plan for you Julie. I never think it is harmful to give it some thought during this time of year and see what comes up.

      I have included ‘brave’ in my acronym so that I will remember it too. Your words of kindness and support are really appreciated.

      Thank you! Denyse x

  11. What a great word Denyse – it’s interesting that we both found it hard to come up with a word that described how we wanted to approach 2018. Your BOLD is fabulous and it suits you perfectly – I’m hoping we’ll both look back on 2018 and see how much we’ve grown and how we’ve used last year’s setbacks in a positive way!

    • Oh Leanne, it would be good to think that by the end of year I agree! Yes whilst we are wanting to say ‘bye to 2017’ it was the year of lessons taught and learned wasn’t it?

      Best wishes for your year!
      Thank you for your kind words.

      Denyse x

  12. BOLD is a great one and it’s even more meaningful being an acronym. Good Luck!

  13. I love it. For the last few years I’ve been selecting a word, and to be honest last year was just wrong from the start and I really should have changed it. But, here I am. A new year and a new word. I’m hoping it creates great things for me and for you. Happy New Year, Denyse.

    • Happy New Year Melissa! I reckon if a word doesn’t work out, ditch it. It is really interesting isn’t it? I think it shows how much WE change and grow as life moves on too!

      I hope all great things happen for you too in 2018 and it’s a delight to see you back here again!

      Denyse x

  14. I love that you made it about kindness in 2017
    It really covers so many things.
    Now BOLD – that resonated with me too.

    • Thank you dear Trish! Yes, that word, even though I did not realise it at the time of making the choice, held me in good stead for all that was to come in 2017.

      Congratulations on your 5 year anniversary today! Wow.

      And look how much LIFE you are putting into LIVING. You not only amaze me you shine your light of living now wherever you go.

      Sending New Year’s wishes and love, Denyse x

  15. Bold is a lovely word and acronym! I do think you are brave and this past year has shown that. I love Brene Brown and will be reading her latest shortly. I love the bracelet too. I tattooed one of my mottos some years ago – my intention had been to Live and I have tattooed on my wrist ‘Live your life’. I did think of courage as a word this year but I passed for now but I am going to get a symbol for courage tattooed soon 😀

    • Oh that is great to know you have something like the tattoo which helps remind you. Brene’s work makes so much sense because she is learning as she goes and her stories help me know of her vulnerabilities and that we are in ‘this thing called life together’.

      Thank you for your kind words. I hope I can continue to grow via this year. Last year sure was one of the lessons I needed to learn.

      Let’s hope for NO more power outages (but I suspect there will be!) because neither of us wants a day like yesterday ever again.

      Cheers, Denyse x

  16. I’m so late in stopping by! Playing catch up after being away. I love your word and it seems perfect for you. I don’t do words or resolutions but I do play with goals. I forget some of them too and of course the world moves so fast these days that last month’s goals can suddenly seem out of place, but at least they give me a map to guide my journey. Thanks for the linkup x

    • I think you can be excused from being ‘late’ but you are not really late at all. Getting back into the swing of things while you are preparing to move house (and state) is a BIG deal! Thanks for your support! Denyse x

  17. I LOVE your word and that it is an amazing acronym – that is so clever and encapsulates so much. I hope 2018 is kind to you as you continue your cancer treatments – you have definitely been brave and still shining all through 2017 xx

    • Thank you Deb! It never takes me long to see a way to improve or alter what I have decided. I was creating an art piece encapsulating B O L D today and reckoned it needed learning to add to loving! So I have. I think playing with what we come up with, changing it along the way makes it work as a real challenge in life today! Denyse x

  18. I loved be that you have an awesome statement for 2018!! I have never really thought about having a word or statement… maybe that’s something I can work on this year! (Sorry for my late contribution my reception was haywire this past week!)

    • Thanks Kerrie! Happy New Year. I probably never got into the word thing much until the past two years and I think last year’s helped and this year’s is already doing so! Denyse x

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