Thursday 24th October 2019

Memories I’d Like To Re-Capture. 12/51 #LifeThisWeek. 29/2019.

Memories I’d Like To Re-Capture. 12/51 #LifeThisWeek. 29/2019.

I have just been talking to my husband about some of my memories and have realised that re-visiting can be harmful to my emotional health.

With that in mind, I have decided to be light-hearted as I think about these memories and the why I’d like to re-capture them.

 

How are you with memories? Can some be triggering too?

I know I like having a good memory but in some instances it is not a good thing!

Denyse.

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  1. There is a saying – you shouldn’t go digging up the past, it only makes you dirty. I’ve got lovely memories but I wouldn’t want to recapture them, no matter how happy, as I’ve changed and they wouldn’t be as shiny and happy as I remember them (perhaps – who knows, maybe they’re better?) but the now is what I have and I’m content to not compare. #Lifethisweek

    • Well-done you! I am too much of a memory-maker and keeper at times and letting go can be so much better for my health, so I am learning.

      I agree about that ‘past’ is a done-place but still…a little wonder and reminiscing is ok as long as it does not becoming rumination!

      Denyse x

  2. What lovely memories! I don’t have a great memory but I don’t mind a trip down Memory Lane from time to time. I’m lucky that my memory bank is full of good stuff and even when there’s more challenging memories, I remind myself that they got me to the happy place I find myself where I am today or that I left them behind in the past for a good reason! My post is on/off topic, eating/making this dish is sure to become a favourite food memory!

    • Sounds like your life experiences have brought you this wisdom, knowledge and great understanding.

      Congratulations because many people do not achieve that in their lifetime, so big cheers for you.

      Off or on prompt your posts are always welcome.

      Denyse x

  3. Denyse, I agree completely. While I have many, many great memories I’d like to return to in real life, there are also moments in the past that I wish I could erase from my memory more completely. I wonder if we do have some control on getting rid of these memories. I mean, if we can’t completely erase them, do we then reinterpret the way we recall them as a self-protection mechanism?

    SSG xxx

    • In my experience, you can put a more gentle or fuzzy surround on the memories that are harsh and not helpful to your “now”. I have had to do a lot of this to ‘let go’ and I find so much more to be grateful for. Even grateful for those ‘awful times (and I don’t mean cancer, strangely) because they have taught me how I can and have changed.

      Writing about things like this helps me. In a journal and then when I look back – even though my hub says not to do too much of what is triggering – I can see my progress.

      Take care, always!

      Denyse x

  4. Some wonderful (and not so great) memories there Denyse. I love that collage of pics of you at various stages of life with the different hairstyles etc. If I were to go back to recapture a memory or memories … I would love to go back to the euphoria I felt after having my babies. I’d love to go back and hold those new born babies and soak it all up – the innocence, the little squeaks and sounds they make, the softness of them. How quickly time has gone since then! My youngest will turn 24 in May! I have linked up a post which is an old one – not quite on topic – but in memory of my aunt who I never met but wish I did. Have a great week! xo

    • YES. That feeling after childbirth was amazing. Talk about endorphin rush. I recall it far more vividly with my daughter than my son – possibly because his birth was harder.

      Time flying to your now baby turning 24 makes you think about your life doesn’t it? Hard when you feel (as I know I do!) much “younger:” than what’s on the birth certificate.

      Hair styles…what were we thinking?? Perms. Oh! So hard to maintain too.

      Denyse x

  5. I love it when memories fly past and stick around for short periods of time – but I’m not into trying to re-create them or recapture them. That tends to tarnish them a tad. Having said that, memory lane is a lovely place to visit.

    • That’s good if you can do that. I am learning not to stay ‘stuck’ on some memories as that makes me sad and lonely for the ‘life’ I loved. And of course, that has passed.

      Onward and all that. Trouble is at “this stage” of life marching up to turning 70 I am a bit reluctant to peep past that one….I know, count myself lucky, right?

      Denyse x

  6. I think I’d get emotional doing a post like this too. Although I wouldn’t mind recapturing our recent Cruise, such lovely memories of that!

    Di from Max The Unicorn

  7. Such great memories you’ve shared Denyse. I definitely don’t want to go back to some of my older hairstyles! I’m not sure where I’d start with memories so instead, I’ve linked my most recent post about playing with a slinky as part of a photo challenge with the prompt of spring – see what I did there? Slinky’s will be in most people’s memories I’m assuming.

    • Spring! You must be in the Northern Hemisphere…and I know you are not. Yes, I get it…good old slinkys. Bought one for a granddaughter last Christmas but I suspect it broke. They do not make them like they used to.

      The hair styles! The cost…the time…the maintenance. Love my short do now with all my natural colour – mostly grey.

      Denyse x

  8. A lovely set of memories Denyse. I love to look back at photos in albums. Celeste pulled one off the shelf the other day, images of my older kids when they were babies – so adorable! Had to stop and re-live the moments. x

    • Yes you have to from time to time. Did your daughter wonder if she was in the photos? I love looking at the young grandkids’ images. I also have far too many and a cull is somewhere in my future.

      Since we moved away, I send the grandkids a card (we put $ in their parents’ account as the gift) and I put a photo collage of them inside – makes the card even more personal for each. Our “last” (&8th) grandchild is 4 this week! Time flies.

      Denyse x

  9. Hi Denyse it was lovely looking at all of your photos and memories. Whether good, happy, bad or sad memories are the experiences we have had to make us the person we are today. Most of us would probably love to relive some and forget about others. I suppose as I get older I realise that there is a learning in all experiences that we have. thanks for the link up and I just love the photo of the little one on the swing with the gorgeous smile! x

    • Thanks for your wisdom and kind words.

      My daughter is now 47 (the little one on the swing) and her Dad built her that swing! Mum and Dad visited us in our ‘bush’ houses when we taught in the country. Mum would spoil us with her cooking. Always a treat.

      Yes, memories are Ok but let’s not get too carried away or they can envelop us in regret and sadness and the only way that can help us is not to repeat things I guess. My husband who is a trained counsellor advises me “not to go down the slippery slope” of the things/times you can do nothing about but remember the good and what has shaped me now. Your words echo this too!

      Denyse x

  10. It’s wonderful looking through your treasure trove of memories. Love how you’ve captured them and hopefully, looking through the photos helps you recapture them. There are some special memories I’d like to recapture but more so to just analyse some and also to experience the joy fully in others.

    • Thank you. It has been fun. I am going to see if I can actually visit ICU next time I am at Chris O’Brien Lifehouse for a meeting and check up because I really want to know!!

      Some memories are great to recall and as you say, bask in them again. Dr Rick Hanson speaks of ‘taking in the good’ in our daily life rather than remembering all of the other stuff that automatically clogs our brain with the default negative.

      Denyse x

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