Monday 22nd July 2019

I Am Grateful Series. 1-20. 54/2019.

I Am Grateful Series. 1-20. 54/2019.

I am grateful every day.

Since learning more about myself, from before, during and after my cancer diagnosis, I know that I am better emotionally when I express gratitude.

I do this in a number of ways.

I will silently think of 5 or 10 things (using my fingers!) that I have been grateful for that day before I go to sleep.

I always express my gratitude to the person who has served me and made me my coffee. There are very few exceptions to this and watching someone’s face light up means the gratitude bounces back I guess.

A few years back I wrote a post about gratitude and how I was keeping a journal then. I am re-posting here what was, and still is, an excellent source about the value of:

GRATITUDE

The social benefits are especially significant here because, after all, gratitude is a social emotion. I see it as a relationship-strengthening emotion because it requires us to see how we’ve been supported and affirmed by other people.

Indeed, this cuts to very heart of my definition of gratitude, which has two components. First, it’s an affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good thing in the world, gifts and benefits we’ve received. This doesn’t mean that life is perfect; it doesn’t ignore complaints, burdens, and hassles. But when we look at life as a whole, gratitude encourages us to identify some amount of goodness in our life.

The second part of gratitude is figuring out where that goodness comes from. We recognize the sources of this goodness as being outside of ourselves. It didn’t stem from anything we necessarily did ourselves in which we might take pride. We can appreciate positive traits in ourselves, but I think true gratitude involves a humble dependence on others: We acknowledge that other people—or even higher powers, if you’re of a spiritual mindset—gave us many gifts, big and small, to help us achieve the goodness in our lives.

from here.

I have been going out each day since late October 2017, dressing with purpose and having a coffee. In my small journal I migth do some art or I might write to get my thoughts out. Recently, I gave myself the challenge (I like a challenge!) of coming up with 20 thins I was grateful for over 5 days, making a total of 100.

Over the next weeks, I will share those groups of 20.

1 to 20.

I am grateful: 

  1. for my life – even now
  2. to be married to the most caring, loving, sensible B.
  3. to be a Mum to a daughter and a son
  4. to have 8 amazing grandkids who love me
  5. for freedom of speech and where I go
  6. for my intelligence
  7. for the career I did really well in.
  8. for my love of teaching
  9. to have the company of little kids as learners
  10. to experience art in my life
  11. to have enough money for much of what I need
  12. for this retired life
  13. to live in a comfy, modern house to live in until at least April 2020
  14. for a regular aged part-pension payments from Centrelink
  15. my advanced and amazing health care
  16. to my team of health professionals I trust
  17. for my blog
  18. for the connections I make on-line
  19. for my memory
  20. To drink coffee: out each day.

Do you practise gratitude?
What are you grateful for today?

Denyse.

Joining with Min for Zen Tips Tuesday here.

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Comments

  1. Loved reading this Denyse. I have just discovered your blog. I too purposefully go out for a coffee each morning. I suppose it’s a habit from my FT busy working in the city life. I am sn avid reader so think it’s part of that. It also prepares me for the dsy. Thankfully imy life is a little quieter now but even that I find difficult. I’ll take note of feeling more grateful from now on. Even though my life is not perfect (lots of challenges in the past too) I’ll remind myself that I am thankful for my health, partner and children.

    • Oh thank you and for visiting for the first time. I was a social recluse (not me at all really) thanks to IBS & anxiety for the couple of years before I got cancer and once I was in a more independent way cancer-wise, I KNEW I needed some structure and something to look forward to…and so since Oct 30 I have been dressing to go out and having that coffee! And a treat too, sometimes.

      So glad you found my blog and hope you continue to follow along.

      Denyse x

  2. Gratitude is what helped me through a difficult period in my life back in 2012/13. I did a 365 Grateful Project where I took a photograph of something I was grateful for every day for 365 days. It was hard at first but soon became second nature to look for something in my days that I was grateful for. It helped me because it made me more present, it helped me reconnect to life, it put a positive slant in each of my days, it created a new photography interest, and more. I must admit that my practice of gratitude has lapsed somewhat and I really need to put some focus back in this area. Perhaps that might be a new project for me on the blog soon. I love your list of 20 things you’re grateful for – all wonderful! Thanks so much for linking up with #ZTT Denyse xo

    • I remember those photos you did each day Min! Seeing life through the lens is really mindful too. I hardly ever take my ‘big’ camera out any more but when I was particularly stressed, it would calm me always to just put my eye to the viewfinder and all the rest of the world shrank.

      Thanks for having me on your blog today.

      I still love making mandalas and mindfulness!!

      Denyse x

  3. What a great way to celebrate gratitude Denyse. I love your list and look forward to the next group of 20. It’s so good for us to stop and notice the gratitude we have for what’s in our lives. Well done 🙂

    • Thanks Deb. It can be so easy to overlook the good and the gratitude when we get weighed down by life.

      I have a small art/journal pack that goes with me on my coffee seeking excusions and I take time in that to reflect, whinge, whatever. A few weeks back I challenged myself to come up with 100 things/experiences I was grateful for and I did, over time.

      This is the first in that group.

      Denyse x

  4. What a gorgeous list. Esp #1 #ZTT

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